Disengaged, but vacation is coming
Some of you know that BM worked very hard at Parental Alienation Syndrome and managed to get my stepgrandson to despise me. He and his bio GM have said awful things about me. However, they know we always go away every summer.And, EVERY summer we have taken him. DH had grandson the other night and the grandson asked ME:So, are we going to the ocean this summer? What??? I've been FORBIDDEN to be with him as DH's ex told him I am "evil". He has repeatedly said the most horrible thiongs about me. I told DH he will soon be getting a call form his ex saying how "mean it is not to take grandson". This teenager has told his grandmother that I am drunk all the time. (Gee, I'd LOVE to have all that free time!) When on vacation, if I even have a glass of wine, he immediately texts my husband's ex to say: she's drinking again. Husband's ex grew up in an alcoholic househiold so never drinks.
I have told my DH we I disengaged and I'm staying that way. He immedialtey said: my ex wil not call!" Either his ex or grandson's mother will call him to make him feel guilty.
One grandchild graduated last weekend and I did not attend. I've met this kid only twice in my entirte life. My husband went alone. I told him I have disengaged and I am NOT going back on it. My life is much more peaceful. The mother of the kid who graduated treats me as if I don't exist.
Am I being mean? I'm a very kind-hearted person, so this is diffcult.