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Oddly my expectations of MSD and SS have changed....

zerostepdrama's picture

SS lived with DH when we first started dating and eventually lived with me as well when DH and SS moved in to my apartment- then the house we own now.

SS was always skipping school, smoking pot, jumping from girl to girl. Never trying to improve himself. Blowing money.

MSD is super smart. She is a hard worker. Seemed on top of her game, even at 16. Always cleaned DH's apartment, because she liked to clean. Conscience about money.

Fast forward to today:

SS graduated HS. Has a decent job and is moving up in his job. Has a vehicle and he puts money into the maintainence of it. Has a steady GF that he has had for quite awhile. I can see how much he has matured even in the past year or so.

MSD didnt graduate HS. Got kicked out of 2 houses. Couldnt manage her car payment when she was living with BF and his family, even though she wasn't paying any bills. Got it re-poed. Had a baby in HS. DH has mentioned that her apartment is always dirty.

Comparing the 2- from what I knew of them a few years back and how I thought it would be in 2014- um yeah totally surprised me on that one.

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zerostepdrama's picture

Yep 4 people plus BM to deal with... all their faults and wants and needs and complaints and drama.

Mercury's picture

Ugh. My DH thinks his daughter is going to be the successful one out of his two kids. She is smarter and more motivated than his son. For now. All I see is a teen pregnancy waiting to happen when I look at her. She has way too many issues working against her. She is bm's mini wife and they have a completely dysfunctional codependent guilt fueled relationship. DH said that even when he was still married to that woman he worried about the unhealthy obsessive dynamic between BM and his daughter. BM has fed that girl lies that her dad doesn't care about her for years. Your dad left us. Your dad doesn't care what happens to us. Us. Us. Us. Nothing good can come from that. Already, despite her high IQ, she shows no signs of being an independent thinker. I'm pretty sure she's going to be fucked up teen.