Karma AGAIN on my side!! hahaha! so BM text my DH today to ask about this weekend (1. I am having surgery {c section and tubal legation} and she KNOWS that. 2. BM is going out of town supposed to be her weekend wanted DH to take SS6 and DH said no so BMs MOM will have SS) and if we wanted her mom to bring SS to the hospital. okay: ONE: I already asked about SS6 coming up to hospital and was told per my doctor unless he lived in my house no children under 12 could come in the room with me and my daughter (meaning only my BS 19 months could come in there as far as kids went). TWO: when BS was born she asked the same thing and when we said "we dont know if he could come in the room" she said "well its ok he doesnt need to go up there at all anyway". So DH tells her "he is not allowed in the room" and she tries to make a big deal out of it but didnt last time. so I told DH "ok I am not stupid this is her way of making sure her mom is with you at some point to get money from you and that is not happening while I am in the hospital and she is not going to start that crap from out of town and expect u to drop everything to get money for her." (she has been all about money since she is going out of town and wants it in her hand before she leaves even though she is not taking SS with her so I dont see how "child support" and her going out of town are connected other than she needs partying money. I would not mind him taking BMs mom the money for her to use on SS while BM is gone but I am not having them come to hospital where my family, dhs famly, our friends and etc. will be for her to try to make a scene through her mother. so I told DH if she tries to pull the "he needs to be there" thing tell her I said per MY doctor he can NOT be there and we have him next weekend for labor day so he will see HER then and it will be better that way since there is not a lot of people here at one time. Well lets just say BM got mad about it and her motive finally came out. DH asked how I knew what she was doing and I said "i am a woman and I know she is wanting money to blow while out of town...I am not stupid or oblivious to the OBVIOUS things she does. she plays you like a fool and you let her by not thinking of the "HIDDEN AGENDAS" that she always has." he said "touche" and that I had a good point and he is "thankful" that I am not a deceiving witch like his ex is. Made me feel better to know that he actually appreciated what I was saying and not taking it like I was calling him dumb or something.