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I have to know....HA and u still get nothing!!

worried_stepmother's picture

Spawn has told DH for 2 weeks now that she has to know by a certain day when he is getting SS for summer. Well NEWS FLASH SS doesn't get out of school til May 24th (or something round there) and ACCORDING TO YOUR DIVORCE PAPERS you don't HAVE to know until 10 days before the day DH wants him. So today was the "have to know by" day and she doesn't even make contact to find out the weeks and this is the 3rd "have to know by" date given. I'm sorry last I checked if u "have to know by" a particular date then shouldn't u oh idk make the effort to find out by that date? I once again point out to DH she WANTS to know so she knows when she will not have her son so she can plan a trip out of town or something with her buddies...but funny when we plan a trip that we can't take SS with us (to hospital to have BD, to NC for a funeral, or to AL to see my dad) and if we can help it we plan them when we are not supposed to have SS but she SOMEHOW always tries to screw those plans up by saying we have to take him because of this or that. However she has pushed my kindness to the limits so for the past 8 months DH has told her NO, I Had him my weekend and this is yours so if you need him to be watched you find someone to do it other than me and my wife. Guess she will find out the summer weeks when she NEEDS TO instead of when she WANTS TO. Smile

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Ghost Rider's picture

My DH ex is like that. In the last 4 years we got screwed out of a personal trip or a trip to visit with my family because some how she would send the skids to us earlier. We tried to plan around when the kids are not going to be here and she still found a way to blow our trips apart. I had finely gave up ever planning trips until the skids come of age. Planning trips became a joke anymore.
It had became a game of taking care of the kids on our days and her holidays and she gets to refreshly go out on trips and party at bars while the kids are with us and when the kids went back to her she tie us back into court, so we stress for three or four weeks for court and when court is over with and before you know it we had the skids back again, then back to court. The only person having fun out of this bunch is the BM going on mini vacation staying in pricey hotels, room sevice, valet service, clubing. It must be nice.

BM's new game now this year is

No more running to court but I will take vistation rights away.

She has become miss date must be known and she wanted to know in a month advance what day are we taking the kids and if she did not get an answer on her term she would already plan something and tell us we will not be getting the kids because we did not get back with her in time about taking them and now the kids have plans to do such and such and it is already paid for.

Which this plan will also come with the "you are still a dead beat dad because you are not showing up to watch your kids games bit!"

worried_stepmother's picture

your BM sounds like a real "B" like mine. Spawn of Satan (since that has to be what she is cause she can never be nice to anyone or think of anyone but herself) always is going somewhere. when we get SS6 she HAS TO HAVE the CS that Friday (when she doesnt have him all weekend so we know the money is not going to him) and if she is out of town she HAS TO HAVE IT in her account by a certain day too. I dont see how that is helping him when he is not with her. If anything I think my DH should pay CS to BM's mother who ALWAYS has the SS and is the one that does for him all the time. when we have him all he wants is his Nana (bm's mom) he never wants his mom so that says something to me...1. she doesnt do with him unless she doesnt have someone else to hang out with and 2. that he is not being parented by his so called mother because she doesnt want to stop being a teenager (when she is almost 30) and thinks partying and drinking is more important that her own kid. she buys him things but it is always expensive stuff and then she wants to complain to DH about how $400.00 a month is not enough to support the kid on! it is only the one kid!!! my dad only paid 360.00 a month for me and he was military and was paid really well. BM makes more than DH does, lives with her parents and has no bills other than a car payment/insurance since she just bought a 2012 civic and she still got $400!! she said $400 doesnt even feed him for the month (so lets do the math shall we fast food kids meals every day for dinner at lets just say $5...31 days in typical month and she only has him 25 of 31 days 25*5=125...so 400-125=275...where does that go?).