Lies and Deception PA Continues
My SS continuously posts on Facebook about how his Dad doesn't want to be part of his life. Woe is me. Blocking our entire family makes it clear you don't wish to be part of our's.
Earlier this week he posted on Facebook how he hated his Mom, someone commented that at least you have a Mom. His response was "Yeah, but my Dad doesn't even want to see me". Dh has been alienated which we believe is partially due to a custody battle, then our marriage. Bm originally abandon skids for another guy (a leach who doesn't work and is still to this day married to another woman), Dh was granted temporary custody during the proceedings, Bm then changed her mind regarding custody and minutes before the hearing was to start, brought forth false allegations making it senseless for DH to continue his fight. His Lawyers advice to him "You and Wicked seem like California people these kids are never going to change and you are going to experience constant court battles with this nutcase until they turn 18". How those words ring true!
A little back ground about a year ago BM took the kids and was granted a temporary OP based on lies. The Op was dismissed when the evidence was presented and they were ordered to reunification counseling. My husband spoke with the counselor and was informed when Skids were ready to be reunited with him. BM refused to take them to the counselor's office so that this could be completed. Facebook has been an outlet to continue the lies and deception Bm has instilled in these children. The solution would be take her to Court for contempt, however she has numerous violations to court orders in the past and has as never been as much as slapped on the hand. So Dh feels this is a waste of his time and money compiled by the fact that these children are probably going to come up with more lies.
Being sick and tired of the constant lies Dh decided to confront this in a non-confrontational way with a text to SS. " I DO want a relationship with you and your sister. You are welcome to come over to my home anytime you wish, I love you and your sister, there is nothing stopping this from happening. I would appreciate it if you were truthful when posting on facebook regarding our relationship". SS's reply " I am and how do you know about my Facebook posts?". His next posting on Facebook " I haven't talked to my dad in a little over a year and he texts me and says something about my Facebook status? I don't even have him on Facebook I have him blocked and "his" family. Stalk much?" More LIES, he and his father had a text conversation this past weekend and has had text numerous conversations with his Dad and insists his mother tells him their visits have to be supervised. How is my husband supposed to have a supervised visit, when she won't take the child to the Counselor's office? Technically it isn't supervised visits, this is just a word this woman has tossed around from day one with her Attorney and tried bringing numerous allegations to achieve this goal.
This child obviously screams for attention from what we're told about his facebook posts. Dh won't do any more court battles as it's a waste of time when the children are instructed to lie. SS posts on facebook in three years that he can see his father, because then he can do what he wants, but I'm afraid three years is going to be too late.
To me it makes no sense to alienate a child from the other parent. The same tactics Bm teaches this child to use on his father are also used on her. He's out of control and I'm afraid it's too late. Either way DH approaches the situation he looses.This child is falsely lead to believe that his father and father's family doesn't want anything to do with him. Can't he see thru the truth? How long is it before these kids can make logical sense out of situations? Skids live within walking distance from our home along with their Fraternal Grandparents so that isn't an issue either. Why does this child keep posting these things on Facebook that he knows aren't true? I'm sure the Counselor informed him of how things would proceed when he told her he wanted to be reunited with his father?
Some of your experiences are similar and I'm wondering if it's worth the hurt and pain it causes Dh to try. He does care, however it's exhausting to continuously be lied to and shot down. When is enough, enough?