Thing2, Asshat and tuition - update
Man, oh man, Asshat is nothing if not consistent.
He told Thing2 last week that he would "consider" loaning him the tuition money, but he first had to find out if he could get loans on his own. Fair enough, I guess, although let's not forget that Thing2 went to Japan on the promise that Asshat would be covering tuition, but whatever.
He told Thing2 to inquire about Stafford Loans and Sallie Mae loans. Neither of those US Department of Education programs make loans to foreign enrolled American student who are not on the USDoE's list of approved schools. For reasons that make a lot of sense, most of the designated schools are in Europe and NONE are in Japan.
A quick google search confirms this, but Asshat has insisted that Thing2 apply for them anyway. There is nothing for him to apply to because Kyoto University is not in the drop down list of schools in the application process. Asshat knows this, or should know this, because he has access to google AND Thing2 has told him this about 400 times.
Woke up this morning to the following text from Thing2 -
"I have confirmation from father that failing everything else he will loan me what I need...but only if you provide proof that you have been paying my rent, and that Thing1, DD27 and the two loans he suggested don't pan out."
me - provide proof that I am paying your rent? FFS, control freak much?
him - yeah, I told him that my still being here was the proof :-) he says he wants your bank records.
me - yeah, that's not happening kiddo, but you are more than welcome to contact your landlord and request an account statement.
him - yeah, I told him that I didn't think you would hand over your bank records.
me - and he knows I won't. But, hey, maybe once he makes you the loan, I will ask for his bank records for validation 
him - at least I know he won't leave me twisting in the wind, right?
me - yes, that is good to know and probably gives you great relief
My bank records? I don't think so, Asshat. Controlling douchebag party of one, your table will never be ready.
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Do you think he's fired for
Do you think he's filed for bankruptcy? If he was as wealthy as you say he should be, why is tuition such a big deal? It's only $12K right?
Well, I just heard from DD27
Well, I just heard from DD27 that Asshat and Money-Ka sold their (used to be mine - lol) mountain home in Colorado and bought a place in the DR, so nope, bankruptcy is not what's going on here. He also recently bought a new plane, so there's that
Two years of tuition is 10K and why is it a big deal? Who the hell knows, except to say that he still wants to control what his adult children (Thing1 and DD27) and I do???
Is there any way for you to
Is there any way for you to get a loan or do you have the money? $10K isn't that much for Thing2 to pay back to you if that's the ONLY debt he'll have for college, especially with a master's degree. I don't have that much education at have WAY more debt than that. Honestly, I'd quit all communication with Assface forever. He thinks you need his pocket change so screw him. He doesn't want to help. Cut his ass out.
Thing2 has about 20K from his
Thing2 has about 20K from his undergrad degree. I agree with you about 10K being a bargain for a master's degree. I can provide the money, but Asshat is the one who promised and then changed the deal.
I don't communicate with Asshat at all. I haven't communicated with him since the Things turned 18 - 5 years ago. I said less than two sentences to him at our daughter's wedding, at the birth of our grandchild and at her christening. I literally have nothing to say to him.
Asshat counts on me to bail the kids out, he always has. With very few exceptions, I have NOT bailed the kids out when he failed to follow through with his promises. Part of me wants to handle it for Thing2, but the other part of me does not want be manipulated by Asshat.
I totally get it and I am so
I totally get it and I am so upset for them. Their dad is a snake and I'd consider never talking to him again, but of course you can't/ won't suggest that. Good for you for not giving up your bank records. What a douche!
Tell that Asshat he can hope
Tell that Asshat he can hope in his fancy ass plane and fly to see Thing1's landlord his damn self for proof of living.
Still trying to control you
Still trying to control you after all this time. SMDH.
He needs to be violated in every orifice with a RUSTY crowbar with a few metal splinters, contaminated with Hepatitis C, Ebola and Zika, and an incurable alien virus.
And then his junk falls off.
Hep C has a cure now. Hep B
Hep C has a cure now. Hep B doesn't.
Just want to make sure your biologically-contaminated weapon is tip-top.
thanks for the update. I
thanks for the update. I forgot that I keep seeing that "hey, baby boomers, you all were a bunch of whores when you were younger and you might have hep C so ask your doctor about" commerical a bazillion times a week
Hep B it is!!
Thank you, Lt Dad!!
Thank you, Lt Dad!!
I'm just shaking my head. How
I'm just shaking my head. How does he think the rent is being paid? He knows Thing2 isn't working so WTF.
I don't think Asshat is the right word for him anymore. He has graduated to something more sinister. Dickface? Twatneck? Stupidfrickinjerk?
Assface? Twatforbrains?
Assface? Twatforbrains?
It is all about control, pure
It is all about control, pure and simple. He must be missing trying f with you.
I can't imagine screwing with your own kid like that. If asshat gets zeeka I hope your son with holds treatment.
Why does Asshat want a
Why does Asshat want a relationship with his kids if this is how he acts towards them?
Does he think he'll PAS them and win now that they're adults?
His behavior would be enough for me to say, "nah, I'm good with never speaking to you again".
Biggest eyeroll ever.
Not sure about how he thinks
Not sure about how he thinks this will help his relationship with his kids.
DD27 knows who he is and she keeps him at arms' length as much as she can. She's happy to see him and his family, but she does it on her terms and doesn't fall for his crap. No PAS there, BUT it is the prime reason that she married into a very large and close-knit family. Her in-laws are everything that her family of origin was not.
Thing1 is a little too self absorbed to pay much attention the the Asshat shenanigans. Additionally, he doens't need anything from Asshat - he has a great job, makes great money, has a great girlfriend and social circle, so there is nothing that Asshat could use him for. He doesn't really care to hear about me from Asshat and he doesn't care to hear about Asshat from me. If he were a SM, he would be the picture of disengagement.
And, then, there's Thing2 - the one who never got along with Asshat as a kid. The one whose relationship with Money-Ka was soooooo strained when he was younger. The one who was difficult to handle, argumentative, rigid, but who also was kind and oving and compassionate. Asshat doesn't like kind or loving or compassionate, and he never really knew how to deal with Thing2's emotional and ADHD issues. Thing2 has always had least-favorite nation status when it comes to Asshat.
I think that when Asshat offered to cover the grad school tuition, Thing2 saw it as a sign of love. Despite being treated pretty crappily by Asshat and Money-Ka, he still seeks their approval.
Asshat manipulates Thing2 because he knows he is the only one who is susceptible to it.
I can’t believe that the
I can’t believe that the Things even speak to Asshat.
I'm wondering the same thing.
I'm wondering the same thing.. Or any of his kids, really.