Grudgeholder, party of one, your table is ready...

and insert eyeroll here...

I am working from home today and DH took a half day to finalize the eulogy for his dad that he has to give as well as wrap up a few loose ends before the funeral for his dad tomorrow. As we were eating lunch, the following conversation took place:

Me - so, BabyVoice is coming home tonight, correct?

DH - yep, should be here around 7

Me - okay and KK and ASS will just meet us at the funeral home tomorrow?

DH - ASS isn't coming.

Me - why not?

DH - he says that he can't be in the same room with you

Me - *bursts out laughing* seriously?

DH - yep. I am so disappointed.

Me - did you chat with him about that?

DH - yep and I told him that this was about honoring his grandfather and supporting his family.

Me - that is exactly what it is for. I just assumed he and I would just give each other a wide berth tomorrow

DH - you know, he really is a jerk. I thought he may have grown up a bit, but I guess I was wrong

Me - sounds like it

DH - he really is his mother's child, huh?

Me - no comment

Don't get me wrong, I am just fine with not having to see him, but I feel bad for DH.

And, so it goes. I do wonder what excuse will be given for his absence? Maybe I should ask DH about that? If anyone asks me, I will simply tell them the truth.

Sidenote - DH also told me that ASS has moved to BeastTown and in with his friend Frank. So, there is that.

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Though sad, it is refreshing to hear of a parent who has clarity

on their toxic spawn. More impressive, is how you and DH support each other.. even in the face of toxic failed spawn crap.

My condolences to DH and the family on the loss of his dad.

As you know, it took a lot of

As you know, it took a lot of work to get DH there

I just feel bad for him. I have had to spend entire wedding weekends with my ex-husband when our children got married. He and I detest each other. We just stayed on opposite sides of the tables :-) And didn't speak much :-)

That the two of you have worked through it and are in a better

place is what is great. Your example is so important.

WOB, your conduct at those

WOB, your conduct at those weddings reflects the values of a decent and sensible person whereas Ass continues to be a classless, ill-behaved POS. Try reminding your disappointed husband that two out of three ain't bad, particularly when half of their gene pool is tainted.

Again, Hon, sorry for your loss!

Does it seem like ASS did

Does it seem like ASS did okay as an adult for a while, then gave into his bad genes and has lost all momentum?

I have a brother like ASS. Managed to keep it together until about twenty-nine, then became a basement dweller.

YES! I had thought that he

YES! I had thought that he was adulting pretty well there for a while, and that is why I thought he would put his selfishness aside and attend his grandfather's funeral. I have no idea what happened to bring about the change, other than I guess the Beast in him finally won out?