I think both SS's are going to live with their BM!!Last night I simply asked SS14 to help pick up some laundry that was on the couch that he had thrown on the floor. He wouldn't do it, so I just did it myself, and I told him to take his blanket upstairs because he wasn't sleeping downstairs again tonight and making the living room a mess again, so that I can clean it up. Well he just flipped out... I just told him he had to sleep upstairs like everyone else... he again refused because he didn't (yelling)want to ( he gets whatever he wants at BM's) I said that he could sleep at his BM, he said fine you can drive me there(an hour away) I said I will not be driving someone around that treats me like shit!Anyway long story shortened, he went to BM'S, DH drove him, other SS, says he isin't coming over either, and SS14 said he wasn't coming back again DH said "Fine don't"... now I know they will be here Christmas day because to them Christmas is all about what they are going to get(greedy). But right now DH is feeling pretty sorry for himself about losing his boys(they were already lost) and he thinks that it is my fault(he wont say it) that his kids don't like me, because I won't be their doormat. I just really hope that they stay at their BM's and then DH may learn what a truely peacful home is, and maybe if he has had a chance to step back and see what his sons are really like(brats)He may understand why I won't be treated like shit in my own home! We'll see what happens!!