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SOOO CONFUFULLED!!!

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Submitted by bunny1204 on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 9:51am

I am a bio mom of 2 and step mom of 1. ages very 13 and 8. MY bf and I have been together for 2 yrs and lived to gether for 1. We had a conversation and he proceeded to tell me that he feels that my children are disrespectful little pigs!! Wow did that ever through me for an emotional loop. Maybe I am not seeing what he does, but I know from talking and watching all they want is approval from him. Almost like they are dying to have a relationship that isin't going to be there I feel sometimes. but do not make that apparent to my children. I am so distraught I have no idea what to think about the comment made other then sadness. I am always hearing from others how well mannered and polite children I have and I don't feel they are purposely trying to make him feel this way. At first yes I will say my son was very destructive and distant but he has come along way. Am I missing something??

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 10:11am

I would wonder what exact examples are of "disrepectful" and "little pigs"

For instance, my DH will always say how "respectful" SD14 and SS13 are. Well they are indeed respectful when it comes to asking for things, saying thank you, not sassing when reprimanded etc. However, in the last 9 months, SS13 has been caught shoplifting, smoking cigarettes, ran up $400.00 in cell phone overage fees on OUR cell phone bill, and numerous other things that I don't think are "respectful" to say the least. In fact I think he is a disrespectful little jerk who only cares about himself. SD14 is the same, all she cares about is what she can get from everyone, she proved that point when she blew DH off on Father's Day, couldn't be bothered to have herself ready, or even have a .99 cent card for him. She ruined the whole day for EVERYONE, so yes, I think she is a disrespectful little witch who only cares about herself.

My guess is that you are missing something in the translation of respectful when it comes to your kids?

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Submitted by sweetbabycake on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 10:12am

Well...That wasn't a nice way to put it! If he has a problem with your kids or the way you handle something, he should try to come at it a different way. It might be best if everyone sat down and discussed how they felt and maybe that will be a starting point. Did he give you examples of how they are disrespectful little pigs? Oh, that hurts to even type that out! Sad I would want to know exactly what he is talking about.