Hello All,

Looking for healthy suggestions about how to manage feeling out of place in my own home,especially after a long weekend with SKIDS.

DH's children spent the weekend with us. The couple with a baby essentially take over the first floor with equipment. They stayed over another night, and no one checked with me that it's ok. The baby slept in my daughter's room since she was away. Again, no one checked to see if okay. Of course I wouldn't say no, but it's just a feeling of being out of the loop.

When SKIDS over, they barely speak to me. If I ask questions, I get glowered at by 21 yr old son, his GF is sweet but getting less sweet and didn't lift a finger to help. Neither did he. If he bring a dish to the sink, DH thinks he's the greatest thing ever.

Young couple with baby take over house. (see above)

25 yr old daughter shows up for days on end while her father (who is out of work) pays her rent for an apartment in another city - where she has her own room. If I try to initiate conversation with her, I get a one word answer. She did help over the weekend, though.

DH and I have had problems from beginning. He is "employment challenged" and drinks (and drinks, and drinks...).  His kids can do no wrong, and any problems they have is because of grief over their mother's death 10 years ago.

He has so much positive energy for his kids. When they are together, I feel like a hanger-on, so out of place. I understand that they don't want me around, but DH doesn't get it. BTW, I try my best to make sure they have time alone with their father, which has involved them taking trips to hotels (on him of course), weekends away, etc.  When we go away, he has asked me to pay half. Sometimes I do, sometimes not.

This past weekend, I decided not to knock myself out cooking. I made a few dishes, but letf the rest to him and went to visit my daugher in another city. Thinking of giving up martyrdom.  I tried, it didn't work.

Wishing everyone good health and sanity on the journey.