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Too F!^*ing tired to deal with Skids crap, and now they are trying to F-up our weekend!

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Submitted by vgill on Fri, 12/30/2011 - 1:34pm

MY ex asked last weekend if he could keep the kids this weekend, he wants to take them to a New Years eve movie, Great, I mentioned this to my sister in law during Christmas dinner, and she volenteered to keep the baby, so Dh and I could go to my sisters NEw Years party. Note this weekend we were supposed to be kid free! This is not the skids weekend here, so Just now I find out that skids have been planing to come over this weekend, because they knew we had plans, the heard us making all the arrangements last weekend! I am soo pissed because I know DH will go pick them up and our plans will be ruined, and BM can't help out right now she is in the hospital and her Dh is going to be with her. I just don't want to see these kids right now we have had them every weekend for the last 3 1/2 months, I don't want to deal with them and their drama right now, besides it has been years since DH and I have had a night to ourselves and I was really looking forward to going out, Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this right now!!?? Help!

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Submitted by Kilgore SMom on Fri, 12/30/2011 - 1:55pm

I agree with Mazzy. If DH caves. I would go anyway even though I know you probably don't want too. DH needs to respect the fact that ya'll need alone time. If DH CO is not for ever weekend then he needs to say no or get ya'll a babysitter. Maybe sister in law will watch all the kids. Good Luck

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Submitted by vgill on Fri, 12/30/2011 - 2:02pm

My sister in law will watch the other 4 kids anytime I ask, and she has 2 kids of her own (both Autistic)but she will not watch skids, she has said as nice as possible that she can't handle them , their attitudes, and their distructivenes. So I don't think it is just me that sees them like this, but maybe I am the bitch that they call me all the time?

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Submitted by vgill on Fri, 12/30/2011 - 1:57pm

Skids have been staying at their BMs house with her DH. As for my DH he can't seem to say no to them, when it comes to them coming over and I normally don't have a problem with them coming over for the weekend but we have made arrangements to have time to ourselves which does not happen often as we have a total of 6 kids together. skids are old enough to stay home alone but I don't trust them to do that when they know we weren't planning on coming home at all that night, there isjust too much trouble for them to get into, right on down to throwing a party or just plane old burning down the house. we have had a super stressful couple of weeks with work, we were just looking for a little time off! I am almost 100% sure that ss14 is doing this on purpose just to be spiteful, because that is the kind if kid he is, if all of the attention isn't on him (good or bad) he isn't happy and if he isn't happy no one else is allowed to be! Am I just being an old sourpuss or am I right to not want them around this weekend!??

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Submitted by Kilgore SMom on Fri, 12/30/2011 - 2:16pm

You may loose this one. With BM being in the hospital. I feel for you. I totally understand why you need a break and alone time with DH. If you have to give be sure DH agrees to a full weekend alone for just the two of you soon. Don't talk about it in front of Skids. That way it wouldn't get spoiled.

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Submitted by vgill on Fri, 12/30/2011 - 2:19pm

We do spend alot of quality time with the kids (all of them) but it just feels like everytime we plan on going out to do some thing just DH and I the skids have to ruin it one way or another. I understand how you want time alone and still want to do things with the kids, And I definately know how you feel with BM trying to sabatauge your free time but Dh and I have not had a weekend alone for almost a year now, And I know that the skids heard us commenting about how excited we were to have the time to ourselves, and I swear they are doing this on purpose, I just am starting to feel awful when they start calling, like a deep depression! I don't know what to do?!

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Submitted by buttercookie on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 7:55am

You said they were old enough to stay alone. Tell them NO they can not come over you have plans. Plain and simple. Or find out if the school or anywhere has "teen drop ins" I remember one year my daughter went to one of these. I didn't go out that year she just wanted to go to the teen thing and I let her. The have soda and the noise makers at the drop of the ball. And quit letting them know your plans. The more they know the more they will sabotage your plans