SS(5) had a major meltdown at school yesterday
So DH came home and told me that BM called him to let him know that when she was dropping SS(5) off at school he freaked out and was screaming and kicking. I guess apprently he wanted to go to work with her instead of school. When she got him into the class room he lost it again and was screaming and kicking the door. He finally made it out of the classroom and made it to BM, which I'm not sure where she was at. So BM just took him to work with her instead of him going to kindergarten.
DH was livid and embarrassed with this behavior. So when SS returned after a fun day of hanging out with mom to our house he was immediately put in his room. No T.V., no video games, and no toys. Just books and puzzles. Well he didn't like this so we had a scream athon for, I would say over an hour.
When he came out to eat dinner he wanted seconds because he wanted to sit at the table and watch T.V. (He also lost his treat.) So when DH caught onto this he took his plate and told him he was done. SS just sat there and everytime DH would ask him to get out of the chair he told DH no. Finally DH yelled at him to get his butt out of the chair which SS did but then he just stood there and wouldn't budge. DH yelled at him again and SS turned around and screamed you're rude at him. DH told him not to yell at him and SS yelled at him again.
SS was put back into his room and began screaming to the point where DH went back and closed his door. (After he had been warraned several times.) What do you thing SS did? You guessed it. He got up and opened the door. He finally calmed down after a little bit. But I would say all in all it was a couple of hours of screaming bloody murder off and on with mild screaming filling the gaps.
What an evening. I'm not sure what caused this. DH stepped up to every challeng SS threw his way. This behavoir is just crazy.
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This is his second week of
This is his second week of kindergarten. He's done preschool and daycare but this school is a lot bigger. I'm wondering if there are other things going on. His mom has recently decided that she wants to divorce her husband of almost a year. DH texted her last night and asked if she told them yet because I was thinking that might be the problem but she said that she hasn't.
It was just really strange behavior from SS. He usually doesn't act that way.
This is what I was thinking.
This is what I was thinking. Even SD(7) was freaking out about not seeing my BD again last night and wanted to do her 30 minutes of reading with her in her bedroom. When DH told her no that she needed to read in her room she started crying about it. This is pretty unusually behavior from her too. DH tried to exlpain to her that she gets see my BD all day today.
That's what I was thinking as
That's what I was thinking as well. That's why I asked DH to text BM last night to see if she said anything so that we can make some adjustments with their behaviors. Not coddeling, but being more understanding about SD crying about not seeing my BD and SS not wanting to leave his mom.
I think that all of their behaviors are from this. I just hope that BM talks to them about this and they don't just show up next Monday and Sdad isn't there anymore. They also have a Ssister that's right around their age too. That maybe why SD is freaking out about my BD. She even wants to have a sleep over in her bedroom both Friday and Saturday night. This is very unusual behavior from her. She's usually pretty jealous and can be very mean depending on what day of the week it is.
I think they know somethings up.
Boys who go to school and
Boys who go to school and make friends and are the teachers helper get to do a,b,c and d.
Boys who cry and scream and don't go to school are behaving like babies and must go to bed early. Also if he is not in school the clock starts ticking. Too many tardies or absences and his parents are smack in the authorities radar.
His Dad should just pick him up and put him in his room. He stays there all night. He can scream his lungs out until they bleed. But he does not come out of his room. And when he goes to open the door his father should be standing right there and scare the shit out of him.
The sad thing is he knows he can get his own way now by screaming. He also can wind his father up as well. Sorry, SS won this battle on both fronts. His mother is a dumbarse and his father blinked.
I don't think that DH lost
I don't think that DH lost the battle. This is the first time SS has ever been punished like that and no matter how he tried to gain control of the situation it didn't work.
DH told him if it happens again he's done for the week. It'll be school and then home to his bedroom. I made sure to remind him of that this morning when I dropped him off.
He tried pulling the "I don't want to" with me this morning when I asked him to put his coat on because it's starting to get chlli in the mornings again but I quickly resolved that when I told him, very calmly, that if you don't get your coat on then you're going to bed early tonight. He knows that I mean business. I don't have to yell or even raise my voice. What I say will happen. It's not a maybe. I don't fight or let a 5 year old control me.
Your DH yelled at his son and
Your DH yelled at his son and lost his temper. This gave his son the upper hand and an insight on how to wind Dad up. This is when he blinked.
I used to be a yeller. I wish I had learnt a long time ago the blank dead stare is MUCH more effective.