Need Some Advise
SS(5) starts kindergarten this year. DH wanted to enroll him in all day kindergarten because it's half the cost of daycare before and after the half day kindergaten.
DH talks to crazo and of course she doesn't know if she can find someone to watch the kids on her time for an hour until she gets off of work.
So of course she suggests that DH can pick them up and watch them for her until she gets off of work and then she'll come over and pick them up. DH told her no that he wouldn't be doing that. So then she comes back with, well since you get off of work and are able to pick the kids up before they get out of school and I can't then you'll be responsible for half of my daycare costs.
So DH called me and talked to me about it. I really have no problem with the Skids being there for an hour a day on her weeks other than the fact that they will make messes that I have to clean up and I have grown accustomed to the every other week when I get to keep a some what clean house.
I don't like the fact that I feel like DH is being bullied into doing this. If DH doesn't take the kids on her time then she will have him pay for half of her daycare only because his schedule allows for him to be there to pick the kids up and her's doesn't plus pay for the all day kindergarten to save him money on his daycare costs when it's his week.
He told her would be willing to watch them until she figures something out but I almost feel like by doing this it's just going to make her feel like she has power over the situation. I support DH in any decision he makes I just never know how it's all going to play out with crazo. She's bitten Dh in the a$$ more than once after he as bent over to help her out.
What do you guys think? Any helpful advise that can be offered.
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dtzyblnd, half day
dtzyblnd, half day kindergarten is free. All day kindergarten costs $250 per month. That costs gets divided in half because crazo has to cover 50% of it, to which she agreed to, because half of the time falls on her weeks. This is a way to save both parties involved some money. DH will be spending $250 a month on daycare for SS and BM will be paying $500 for both SS and SD on her time.
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I'm wondering why she thinks that it's his responsibility to do things on her time?
Not that I'm not thinking about the kids here, just thinking about her mentality?
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Crazo thinks that the world revolves around her. She thinks that everybody involved should make sacrafices for her. I think that once DH starts doing this there will be no need for her to locate anybody even though it's her responsibility since it's her week. I know that DH would enjoy having them there almost everyday but I like the fact that we get a break every other week. His kids can be high energy and pretty demanding and I usually spend the weekend before they go home cleaning and getting the house ready for a step kid free week. I really don't want to come everyday to a house that I constantly have to pickup because they can trach a bedroom in record time.
DH also struggles with having all three kids. He gets home and usually starts on dinner while I'm at work and when his kids are there they make it very trying for him. Sometimes their behavior sets the tone for how the whole evening will play out.
I think that DH should give her a time line. Like I will only watch the kids for the first two weeks of school. You will of had a month to locate someone to watch the kids which is plenty of time. If she throws out the daycare costs, DH can just say that in order to balance that out he will be putting them into child care with one of my firends that is certified by the state and is willing to cut us a really good deal. I don't think she wants to be paying $625 in child care a month and DH would be keeping her in check with her dominating behavior.
Lostinthemadness, It's
Lostinthemadness, It's written into the divorce decree. Since it's work related child care on her weeks and the kids are not at daycare on our weeks, DH is obligated to cover 50% of her child care costs. Or at least I think that's how it's supposed to go.