What's the weirdest expectation you've ever heard from a non-stepparent?
I think we're probably all familiar with the double-standards that come along with being a stepmom. You're supposed to "love them like your own" at all costs...but no one ever expects the kids to love you "like a parent" or even be respectful or civil to you as an adult in their lives. Everyone constantly reminds you that "it's a package deal" when you marry a man with kids, but no one ever tells the kids that you're now a "package deal" with their dad.
Recently, I've also heard that stepmoms shouldn't have any say over how their house is run or authority over the kids...because they're not "real" parents. Nevermind that we give authority to other adults who aren't parents all the time...teachers, coaches, lifeguards, store security, police, day care center employees...really anyone who is expected to have any level of responsibility over a kid is also given authority without a second thought. But not stepmoms for some reason? Strange.
I've read articles and advice columns telling stepmoms that they ought to be "grateful" for these kids in their lives...gladly spend money on them (keeping separate finances would be 'petty')...and not throw birthday parties for their OWN children because it might hurt a skids feelings.
Just wondering. What is the most insane / inane thing a non-stepparent has said to you about your role as a stepparent?