So...I did something passive aggressive and underhanded for the first time in my SM career. And it feels kind of good...
So. If you read my blog about SS18s graduation dinner a few weeks ago, then you know that our BM asked us to continue paying CS through the end of the summer. For no reason. My DH told her no...but said we would pay the full amount for June. We always pay in two installments, per BM's request. One payment on the first Monday of the month, one on the third.
DH also hasn't been making a lot of money for the past three months, though that will change in July as he's under contract and will get a substantial retainer before August, so I'm the one floating this extra payment.
Anyway. BM has also asked us to pay "our half" of youngest SD's remaining medical bills. Despite the fact that, 2.5 years ago when she was first diagnosed and first had the surgery, DH's parents paid about 95% of all bills after insurance and gave BM money personally to help with any expenses that cropped up...she asked us to pay "our half" of the remaining $800 that was billed in January...she gave us the bill in May and asked for our part "with the next CS payment" a week later. We said no...but that we would pay it directly to the hospital by the end of June.
So, now we're paying the second half of CS (to be paid yesterday) and an extra $400 for medical bills by the 30th. I don't know. I'm just feeling annoyed by all of this, lately.
Here's where the underhanded thing comes in. On Saturday, I saw that DH had set our household checkbook on the mantle. We only write a check for one bill...CS. We went out of town Sunday after lunch for a wedding in DC on Monday, and this morning DH and YSD flew to NYC for a little trip that I arranged while I drive the car back home (in a cafe now, catching up on some work and stalking).
My DH is forgetful, so I figured that he left the checkbook there to remind himself to write and leave a check for BM. I put the checkbook in my purse...and he did forget. BM texted him frantically when we were about an hour away asking where the CS was. (Meaning...she rushed right over to get her $$ the minute she thought we were gone. Eager, eager!)
I know it was wrong. But it's also a completely extra check that we're just...gifting her. Am I a terrible person? I'm going to leave the dumb check for her first thing tomorrow morning, of course.