Christmas Card From Friend & HIS DD...not new wife and new son...
Hmmmm.
I always find it interesting to get little glimpses of other people in step-life.
Recently, I got a holiday card and drop-in invite from my financial advisor, who also happens to be a friend of mine from college. It's not a personal card from their family...it's a business card and invite. I was about to toss it on the pile when I noticed the signature. My friend signed it...and so did his 12-year-old daughter. The thing is, my friend remarried last year. His first wife left him and took their daughter about...gosh...7 years ago? 8? Friend now has a little, adorable 3-month-old boy with his new wife...who I haven't met, but she seems lovely.
Wondering about this Christmas card. Why did he sign it with his daughter from a previous relationship only? Why didn't his wife get to sign? Trying not to overthink it. He posts pictures of both kids, and his new wife, on social media all the time. If anything, he posts more of the new baby. However, I've never seen a more spoiled rotten princess than his little girl...even before the divorce he acted like she poops rainbows. I actually had a friend (well...my hairdresser) who dated him for a while after his divorce, and she told me horror stories about the girl from time-to-time while doing my hair. My hairdresser also owned a little boutique clothing and jewelry shop on the other side of her salon and dressed pretty edgy...layers, leggings, lace, leather, fur, feathers, big chunky gold and silver pieces. She told me that this little girl often told her that her outfits were "ugly" or "not right" for church...without any correction from her dad. They had a tumultuous relationship for a while...broke up and got back together about five times...but, eventually, my friend decided playing second fiddle to a child wasn't for her.
Anyway. Way off topic there. Just got a moment of seeing someone else's step-hell. Maybe new wife doesn't care. Or, maybe, she's wondering why the little girl signed with her dad like they're the couple...
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lmao! that was so bad it was
lmao! that was so bad it was AWESOME!!!!!!!!
hahahahahaha!
hahahahahaha!
Depending on who I am sending
Depending on who I am sending the card to I will switch up who it's from.
Example:
DH's cousin in another state I sign it "DH, Zero and kids". They have never met my BS, have only met me a few times. They most likely don't know the situation with the skids so it's just easier.
For DH's mom I sign it "DH, Zero and BS." She pretty much knows what the situation is with the skids. So she knows that I don't have any dealings with them.
I send a card to my Ex's uncle (he was married to Ex's aunt from his dad's side) and his "new" wife because they are involved with my BS. I sign it just "Zero and BS". They have never met DH. I usually write something in the card and it's more personal and it's truly from me and BS. DH doesn't know them.
But I send a card to Ex's mom and sister and I sign "DH, Zero and BS."
I just do what makes most sense to me at the time to whoever the card is going to.
Oh no...not an oops at all.
Oh no...not an oops at all. Last year as in 2015. We're almost in 2017. Plenty of time for marriage and a planned baby.
But I'm with you on this being bizarre...with it being a business card. I think dads, in particular, always think their kids are more adorable and charming than they actually are. I can see my friend thinking...a child's signature will bring a touch of warmth and whimsy to this business Christmas card...
Well. His little DD has been
Well. His little DD has been "front-and-center" in his life for a long time, so I can see how he might think that she's at the forefront for others, as well.
I like how he's handled my money. But I'm wondering how many of his clients even know who "Katie" (name changed) is.
Maybe it's more of a business
Maybe it's more of a business card not from the family. Maybe little girl was hanging around while he was doing his business holiday messages and she remembered your name and asked if she could sign it.
That would be not only harmless but charming.
But you have the evidence of the hairdresser. Now it seems sinister indeed. It could still be superficially innocent as described in the first scenario but still attached to a dreadful mini-wife situation.
I don't think she dressed too
I don't think she dressed too edgy...just different from your typical churchgoer in the south. More city-style. Still no excuse to be rude.
That's just life, though,
That's just life, though, isn't it? Very very few of us have actual mindreading abilities, so we rely on our - humankind's - astute powers of observation of other's behaviour.
For example, when dad said, "You look great!", many would use their observational skills to conclude that he was using words to communicate his thoughts, such that, his words mirror his thoughts. In the absence of words, say, for example, when dad said nothing, many would think he didn't communicate at all. Hence, what dad may *or may not* have thought remains forever unknown and, indeed, unknowable.
I care about good manners,
I care about good manners, but I also think other people can set and enforce their own boundaries. There is bound to be some situation wherein my kid is going to say something a third-party will find rude, and I won't react because I don't notice/don't value whatever is being said.
My kid is almost 3. She is rude all the time - and I address it every time. Everything from tone of voice to saying please and thank you to using a kleenex to wondering why that lady is bald.... But ofc each of those gets addressed differently.
If she, at any age, said someone's outfit was ugly? You betcha I'd be teaching her how to be more polite - don't say anything, say she looks beautiful, find one thing to compliment, etc.
But, I'd also expect the adult being spoken to this way to put my kid in her place as well. I mean, someone, anyone, is rude to me, and I think it's MY job to draw the line. Right?
Because, let's say this is a political discussion and my kid disagrees with some opinion another has put forth. Now, I care about being polite as in following social norms for conversational exchanges (no yelling, name calling, hitting etc when others disagree). But, I think it's important to be able to disagree, so I wouldn't encourage the same Don't say anything, find something to agree with strategy at all. Some might find that rude, especially in a pre-teen. But I wouldn't, so I wouldn't step in.
Well...and I'm just going off
Well...and I'm just going off what my hairdresser told me...and she was kind of a flake, frankly. Made several very poor relationship decisions in the time that I knew her...including a marriage to a much younger guy she had known for 6 weeks while they were on a cruise...that was dissolved less than a year later. So...
But. Everything she told me about little precious seemed believable / realistic and par for the course with divorced dads I read about her on ST.
I think it was last year at
I think it was last year at this time that someone posted about a divorced dad who did a duet rendition of "Baby It's Cold Outside" with his miniwife teen SD.
:sick: :sick: :sick:
Barf. Reminds me of a scene
Barf.
Reminds me of a scene from Arrested Development.
For some kind of talent show Jason Bateman sings a duet with his teen niece. Halfway through the song he starts paying attention to the lyrics coming out of his own mouth. The song was "Afternoon Delight."
Barf barf barf