Just found out that I am PREGNATE!!!! Needing advise
Ok...I just found out that I am pregnate! I am so excited. This is my first child and I am MORE THANK EXCITED!!! I have actually know for a couple of weeks which has give me ample time to think about a lot of things.
My husband has 2 kids from a previous marriage and this will be our first together.
We were talking about the gender of the baby a few days ago and he said some thing that startled me. He told me that he hopes that it is boy because he doesnt want his daughter relationship to change. He wants her to always be his favorite little girl. This bothered me. Got me to thinking...what if I have a girl...will favortism be shown. Will my child be treated differently because he doesnt want his daughter to feel left out.
I do want my child whether it is a boy or girl to grow up responsible. I think that it is not a bad thing for children to have chores. It teaches thim valuable lessons. My hsbands kids do NOT know the word chore and basically laugh in my face when I talk about it. I am the only one that makes the step daughter do anything. And the only reason she does it is because my husband told her to listen to me when he is not there. When he is there...she is a different child.
Can someone give me some advise on this area? I NEVER want our child or his children to feel like they have been treated differently.
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hi, congratulations, i am
hi, congratulations, i am just wondering how old his daughter is?
my only advise would be to sit down with your husband and his daughter and negotiate some rules around chores xx
His daughter is 12. He has
His daughter is 12. He has told me in the past that he doesnt want to give her "too much to do" since she isnt with us All the time. He wants her to enjoy her time. I tried to get her to make her bed, clean her room, empty dishwasher, and other things and husband is against it.
The only time she does it is when I TELL her too...when he is NOT there.
But, I think I am going to have to sit down and talk to him...because our child will have to do those things and the last thing I want is for our child to fill like its a maid and has to do everything and her sister doess NOTHING!
that would be the only thing
that would be the only thing you could do, just tell your husband how you are feeling x
BF, "Love just multiplies, it
BF,
"Love just multiplies, it doesn't get divided up". That is not just your opinion. I believe it is a fundimental law of physics.
Awesome post. Your kids are lucky to have a mom like you.
Best regards.
You can't balance your
You can't balance your parenting of an older child against your parenting of a younger child.
For older children you were learning to parent. They trained you as a parent. Of course you are going to treat a younger child differently than you treated the older child at the same age.
You have more experience and less energy.
I am 6yrs older than my brother. I used to rant about how he would get away with stuff that would have gotten me killed. Our parents would just smile at me and say "yes son you are right we are making different decisions with your brother than we did with you. Your brother owes you a debt of gratitude for training us to be better parents than we we were with you"
You will be the same with your new baby when he/she arrives.
And do you know what ...... that asshole little bro of mine has never payed up on his debt to me for raising our parents!!!!!!
Best regards,
Ooopppssss!!! I forgot.
Ooopppssss!!! I forgot. Congrats on your exciting news of the future member of your family.
Best regards.