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Tiger7's picture

Late last night, SO got a text from BM....their 17 yr old is back in the psych ward that she was in last summer. He told me earlier in the evening that she had left the house again for some time (don't know how long) and I guess now, they (doctors? mother?...I don't know who) thinks maybe she tried overdosing on some of her meds. I know nothing more than that. She is on a TON of meds - never seen anything like it with kids. Both her and her sister came to my house with about 10 prescription bottles each that they say they take everyday. I was very alarmed. I googled some of them and one in particular has me thinking bad things (like Munchausen by proxy). But, the doctors are prescribing them, right? Anyway - the ex texted him (didn't call) and it didn't seem overly urgent or anything. I asked him if he was going to go the hospital last night, but he said no. He knew his daughter would refuse to see him. He's waiting to hear back from BM. Even though I don't particularly like this kid, I sincerely hope she'll be ok. And I hated thinking this last night, but I also really hope this isn't another ploy for attention. SO's birthday is Fri and we have plans with family and friends....just waiting to see if Fri will be the day she decides she wants to see her dad. Of course, I will encourage him to go see her. Last time in the psych ward, she acted like Queen Bee living at summer camp....it was ridiculous.

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witch.hazel's picture

I guess she found the right psych ward!

My former SD did the "queen bee" crap while faking a psych issue. She was sitting up in bed in the ER eating junk food and drinking pop. She was admitted, but daddy got her out a couple days later when she learned she couldn't smoke and there wasn't enough food on her plate.

I think your SDs' issues sound pretty major, and I'd steer clear of them outside of venting. Sounds very possible that they all (including BM) love the attention, but you're the bad guy if you say so. I have an older relative who sounds like your SD- he loves being in psych, makes tons of friends and is the ring leader of them all. And he is truly messed up.

Tiger7's picture

Wow - does sound similar. I don't say much. I have voiced my concerns about the meds to my SO. His Aunt is a nurse and his sister told me that when she found out about all the meds, she also said they don't need to be on all those. The 17yr old loves being loud and center of attention. That psych ward was right up her alley cause she was definitely the ring leader. Even the nurses and aides seem to kiss up to her - it was disgusting to see.

thebrokenrecordmachine's picture

Wow.
SD was 15, almost 4 years ago when she swallowed a bottle of pills(her mother did the same as a teen- did not want to go to school and her dad, BMs dad is a psychiatrist) and SDs friend did it earlier. It was A LOT to deal with. SD is not a drama queen but i dont put it past her using her ways to get what she wants. Both skids are messed up and both have not gone to school in the last 4 years, SD 19 is getting her GED.
Anyone who wants that kind of attention, imo it would appear they have some sort of issue, whether its a form of narcissism but definitely some kind of personality disorder. Its hard to see it sometimes as some people really are that selfish and even i shrug it off and think- what a jerk- when really maybe its something more serious than being selfish- i dont know all of her background.
But yep, i know how stressful it is, how our spouses put us on the back burner (when in all fairness crisis do sometimes impede our needs). If your anything like me, things are very quiet then about 2 years later all hell breaks loose and you cant help but wonder- whats next. I told SO this, thats all i know with his kids and ex, silence than havoc.
Hope your SD gets the help she needs and pills dont solve problems, (unless she is schizophrenic or has a condition in which taking medication outweighs the risk)...best of luck!

Tiger7's picture

SO's kids definitely have issues. The 15yo has some form of Aspergers syndrome - she very sweet and smart but she is extremely immature, among other issues. This 17yo is turning out like her mom (ugh). The things my SO have told me about the BM is awful - she has subjected her girls to some pretty rough street life; having men in and out of their lives; hearing their mom having sex with some of these men; not working a real job ever. Instead all she does is hustle and live off the system. SO has had it rough financially himself in the past and was never in a position to take them in but he's always paid child support, has been in their lives and has had family support (his sisters, aunts, cousins) who have had the girls in their lives and tried to be a positive influence. Clearly being raised by their BM has affected them badly, at least the 17yo. I will never keep him from his kids and I hope she gets the help she needs. However, I made it clear that I don't want her living with us and as of now, I don't even want her in my house. If he needs to get a place of his own to take her in, I'll support that. I've had enough stress and crazy in my former marriage - no more!