Honest opinion? Wouldn't care. It would be one evening a week, I could spend just focusing on my own kid. No husband, no s/kid in the mix.

I can not say I would be happy at all. If he wanted to spend an extra day with my Stepchild then he would have to spend an extra alone day with each of our Bio children also. So he would not be home 4 days a week!!! I think a dad and all kids special event together a couple times a month would be great!!

well i think it would depend on why you cant participate

for example if its because of bm or something like that, then i would not like it at all and i would strongly suggest that dh not participate, for reasons being skids see they can separate us.

if its something gender related, or you are working when activity is taking place i would say it wouldnt bother me, for example, if ss was a boy scout and dh helped and it was a boys activity, i wouldnt care, just as dh shouldnt mind if bd and i did girl scout stuff together

You mean time to be alone with myself??? Woo hoo?? Where can I sign up?? LOL

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But you are projecting that he won't have time for you and your child (child's not here yet, right?). Why don't you give him a chance to see if he makes the right choice on his own once the baby arrives? He might surprise you.

Lol, we have my skids this week for March break, and I planned all different types of activites for DH and kids, that I can not participate in (8 months preggers and hiking do not mix well). Gives me time to take a hot bubble bath and sit outside today with the beautiful weather, and read a new cook book.
Tomorrow when they are riding bikes, I will be making steak, egg and cheese egg rolls for din din. Also yes, I have to make the plans, the skids would NEVER go outside unless it was planned, and I love my DH dearly, but brother is lazy! lol.
Let them have the swimming, but ask him to come home for dinner. That is what I would do. If you really want to go (I would kill to go swimming right now), just go with shorts and put your feet in the water.

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I wish I could help here... we do everything as a family. There are occassional times when my girls and I go do "girl things" and the boys do "boy things"... but other than that, it is a family. Every day of the week.

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It depends. What is the relationship with the skids like? I know for my own sanity and the needs of my DH and his daughter, I let them spend a ton of time alone together. It doesn't bother me unless it is something that they specifically want to exclude me from, then my feelings get hurt. I also can't stand it when I come home and the SD is there and I say hi and ask how its going and they act like I am not even there. That really hurts and makes me angry.

You have every right to feel however you feel about it. Just because some other people may not get upset or hurt over something like that doesn't mean that you are not justified in your feelings. We are not in your situation and don't have the relationship that you have with your SO. It would be completely unfair to tell you that you can't feel one way or the other.

My DH used to spend one night a wk with just SD. It was my suggestion but I had to really convince him to do it. It lasted for about 1 yr. but has since stopped. He felt that SD was there it visit all of us--him, me, and BSs. I thought otherwise.....

Anyway. it worked out pretty well for us (me and BSs!)

I really don't see what the problem with it all is. It is just one night, gets them out of the house.....lots of benefits.

I wouldn't care as long as BM or BM's family wasn't also spending time with them. And only if it is only one night per week.

Personally I would LOVE it!! An evening to myself.....I could do that.

You know Thetis when I was pregnant with my DD's (sorry to say 30+ years ago). The doctor actually told me to drink one or two glasses of wine in the evening to "help me relax". I don't think I did drink wine everynight back then, but I do remember drinking wine,although not to the point of intoxication, while pregnant. I had trouble free pregnancies and my DD's were both very healthy babies. Not going to say for sure that was because of the wine though!

In regards to your blog, it would bother me to some degree, but what I would do is " Have a little me time".
If your SO wants time to his children without you, then you have some time without him and his children. Pedicure/manicure/hotbath and some music/ night out with some friends.

" Faith is a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it's still dark"-R.Tagore

I told my DH that for now till Aeternity MWC only would play a part in XXX activities with lots of pot and that I wanted a weekly visit to our local Hookah Hut.

So far he seems to be on board.

(I just can't adapt to the board games and spongebob shows.)

if u are upset about it than there is a reason.. cause if it was something that gave you some freetime or was what the lawyer said to do or whatever you would be OK. But u r not so.. it must not be right. Even if it was not your idea of great but u knew it was a good thing you would be fine with it eventually.
I believe if u follow this rule all will work out....
GOD
MARRIAGE
CHILDREN
In that order step or not.-IAMTHEMOM