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Terryific478's picture

Ok, I'm still figuring out how to post on here. Anyway, I hope someone reads this and lets me know. I have had it! My stepkids are ruling the roost again. My stepdaughter is just plain abusive and evil. She makes comments about me to her boyfriend on the phone when I talk to the other kids. She grips about not getting potatoe chips for lunch. She is 18 and has a job. She was totally defiant yesterday, when I told her to give up the phone. Turning it into a complete battle ground and standing in front of the phone jack, then grabbing the phone out of my hand. My stepson thinks he can play playstation all day and not get a job. Meanwhile, my husband complains about not having enough money and pressures me about it. By the way, my husband is sick now with cancer and can't work. I told him she will not get any rides to work from me any longer. I also told him I don't think she should get the phone, he thought that was a double wammy. I think it is suits her actions. She is lucky she is still here. My question is, why am I obligated to allow her to continue to treat us this way and live here or not call the police when she acts this way? To add to things, I have an 11 year old, that is seeing this, what does that show her? I love my husband dearly. Once again, we are being pulled and I'm sick of it. Any suggestions out there, I really need to speak to someone.
Terryific478

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Dawn-Moderator's picture

Ok, well, first of all it sounds like a respect issue. Mainly a lack of respect for you! Your husband needs to talk to the 18 year old and let her know that she needs to respect you or she needs to find her own place. You should not have to put up with that kind of behavior from an 18 year old! Is it an option to send her to live with her mother if she can't get her own place?
Have you tried having family meetings? Everybody can get together and voice concerns that they may have and come up with solutions to problems that exist? We have to do that every so often.
How old is the stepson that is addicted to the Playstation? Make him have to buy his own video games and stuff. My stepson is addicted to video games too but he is only 10. He also wants to get a cell phone and wants us to pay for online games.......sorry buddy but those are things that you won't be getting until you are old enough to get a job to pay for them. Trust me he gets all of his needs and a lot of his wants met, so it is not going to kill him to not have a cell phone at age 10!
Anyway, hang in there!

Dawn

Terryific478's picture

Yeah,respect seems to be coming up all the time over here! My stepson is 18 too, they are the same age. Unfortunately my husband is sick with 4th stage lung cancer and going through Chemo therapy at the same time all this is going on. No, this is not new to any of us, it has been going on since August. So, do I need support..that is an understatement. I'm glad you read my blog, did you watch that special on Dateline the other night about MySpace.com? It talked about kids creating profiles with all their information...scary! I would check it out, they have a blog on it. So are there other people that write blogs, write to you? My husband has tried talking to her,plenty of times. I'm at my wits end with this, he is like "you can't change anybody but yourself"...oh, my god. Like they are really going to change unless they see a consequence for their actions, if their is none, why should they care. Sometimes, I think he is just too sick to deal with it all and they know it, so they take advantage of the situation. Yeah, we have family meetings, sometimes it is just her bringing up past crap. I told her I would not give her a ride to work anymore. I'm done. I hope life is better for you.
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Dawn-Moderator's picture

Hey, maybe your stepkids need a wake-up call. Don't they understand that their father is sick? They should want to cooperate now more than ever so their father doesn't have to get upset over the crap they are pulling!!! Maybe they need a BIG reminder of what is going on in your household.
No, I didn't see the Dateline segment but I think I saw something about that on Dr. Phil's show. These teenager are putting all of this personal info on Myspace and think it is harmless! Not! There are so many sickos out there. You really have to try and monitor what they are doing. It is scary!

Dawn

Worndown's picture

Right there with you! My kids are 5 and 10, and see everything my evil, shady, sucky, selfish, attitude of a ss17 does or says.