I don't want to hear about this crap anymore.
DH went to pick up the skids last night for his usual Thursday night. Skids are out of school tomorrow for a student/staff holiday and per the CO it states that if a school holiday falls on a Friday or a Monday and it is DH's weekend then he is responsible for them for those days. However BM took it upon her to make dentist and doctor's appointment for both skids for today. This is the kind of crap I am talking about she doesn't read or follow the CO and she wasn't even going to tell DH about dentist and doctor's appointments.
The CO also states that each party is supposed to notify the other of dentist and doctor's appointments. So DH sends me BM text stating that the skids are out of school on Friday so he is responsible for them since it's his weekend she said well both skids have a dentist and doctor's appointment today so then he will have to take them. BM failed to read/follow the CO. BM is supposed to notify DH of any appointments and the decent thing to do regardless what the CO states is to let the other parent know what is going on with their kids.
Then get this BM offers to drop them off at our house after their appointments DH says that well no one will be home so please drop them off at my work. She said well then you need to pick them up at my house after you get off work. Mind you our house is even farther to drive than DH's work. So why did you want to drive farther to drop of the skids. HMMMM!? Because you want to go into my house! So again BM can just do whatever she wants and she has my DH's balls in her purse. He said I am just going to ignore her. I said she takes advantage of you and your let her but she is your ex and your problem. Everything is a game to this sociopath.
I told DH stop involving me in your messed up relationship with your ex because I am sick of hearing about it. I am not the kind of person to let someone run over me like she runs over him so I would just rather not to deal with it altogether.
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What did he say when you told
What did he say when you told him to stop involving you? I'm glad you did because there was zero reason he had to share her text with you.
He didn't say anything he
He didn't say anything he just walked off.
BM is ridiculous, no doubt...
But taking kids to doctors and dentists on off-days from school is a standard practice, and both parents have this responsibility. And she notified him--without much notice, yes--but he was notified before they happened. Should she have *asked* your DH if it was OK? Sure, but she's volunteered to take the skids and drop them back off and he's working all day anyway. That's reasonable. It's also reasonable to say that because he's working, he can pick them up from her on his way home instead of her dropping them at his work.
You are so frustrated with this situation that *anything* she does will set you off, so it's probably wise of you to ask that you not be involved.
To me this all sounds like
To me this all sounds like manipulation on BMs part. She purposely didn't tell DH about the appointments until the last minute, knowing that he would have to work and not be able to take them. Then MOTY of the year swoops in and offers to take them (when she was planning on it all along) then she again plays MOTY and offers to drop them off at your house KNOWING that nobody will be there and your DH will say no, then she again can swoop in and say oh ok, once again since DH is being so "difficult", MOTY will just take skids home and DH can pick them up there after work.
PULEEEAASSEE This was her plan all along. Take them to their appointments and take them home and have DH come and get them.
If this was NOT manipulation, she would have told DH about the appointments when she made them so he could make arrangements to take off that day. I mean come on, we all know you don't make a dentist appointment the day before... it just doesn't happen, she's had these appointments for quite some time and is playing.
Thank you DaizyDuke for
Thank you DaizyDuke for noticing that she is playing manipulation games. But DH really can't do anything about it because ignore it or take her back to court. I need to try to stop driving myself crazy over her socipathic antics.
In future
In the future when this kind of situation happens DH should take a day off work to spend time with his kids. He doesn't have to tell BM. And when she says "Oh BTW SK 1 & 2 have appts at 11am and 1pm.." DH can says "Great! I planned on spending the day with them anyway so this works out just fine. Thanks for thinking of this!" She will implode.
Yeah I wish he would do that
Yeah I wish he would do that LOL.
If it is his time and he
If it is his time and he wants them, he can call and cancel the appointments. There is no reason why these appointments have to be made on his time. OR if they need to happen on his time, he can schedule on a day and time that is convenient to him.