On weekends, we have SD on alternate days, for example this week she will sleep at ours tonight and go to MIL tomorrow evening, my BD6 will sleep at her dad's tomorrow evening too, but next week MIL will have SD on Friday night and we will have her on Saturday night (my BD will be with her dad on the Friday and home for Saturday)

So, its SD6's birthday next Tuesday, and orginally I was planning a little party for her in the evening as she comes for tea on Tuesdays anyway....you know banners, balloons, her gifts and cards and obviously food too....anyway, OH has to work nights next week so wont be able to have her. So, I said we would have to do something for her tonight as we have her overnight....so last night after work and dropping BD off at Beaver's, I went to my families homes and collected cards and gifts for SD6 that my family have bought for her......OH has then suggested we do something on Sunday instead.....now, we wont have any of the kids....his plan? .....to tell MIL to pop down to ours on Sunday around 2 ish (whilst my BD will still be at her dads) and we do the mini party then! Remember SD will be sleeping at MIL Saturday night...to make things worse, he will be at work all day Saturday AND most of Sunday, so its ME who will be sorting this mini "party" and entertaining, not OH.....Ive said no. Is that wrong of me?

I work full time, 5 days a week, come home and see to my BD, the house and OH every day, and SD a couple of times a week, plus im 17 weeks pregnant and not having a good time of it right now, and Saturday night and Sunday day is the only child-free time we have, and the only time that, for now, I get to have a break and concentrate on me and the home....and truthfully that's why I don't want to do it Sunday. Is that really selfish? Considering that either way, its me that's got to do all the work?

This morning before I started work, I bought her cake and snacks and stuff for later on....OH has now said he doesn't want to invite his mom and sister down tonight, and he would rather it was just us 4 (me, OH, BD and SD) which is fine by me, but what is the betting the sneaky b*stard has already told his mom to come down on Sunday?

Am I being out of order here? I welcome honesty, I really do