New here and need to vent!
Hello. I just found this website and need to vent because none of my friends have a blended family like me. Sorry, if this is a long vent...
So I have a wonderful 10 yr old daugher (previous relationship), my 12 yr old stepdaughter and together, my hubby and I have a 5 yr old son.
My husband and I have been together for 7 years. My BD real dad has been out of the picture since she is 3 (barely before that.) My husband is basically the only dad she has known.
My SD has been with us every other weekend and vacations since she is 5. So she is not new in my life. However, we live in NY and her BM lives in NJ and we just recently got physical custody of her 5 months ago. So she lives with us full time.
This is where my issues are. We were always good, when we had her on the weekends and vacations (except hubby and I would fight more) but now that she lives with us, I feel like a raging lunatic. I don't know if it's the age, the living situation or we just hate each other, but it's not a happy home.
Here is the deal, BM and BM bf that SD was living with, are trying to recover from their drug addications, hence the reason we have my SD.
While we used to get her every other weekend, her BM's mom (SD Grandma) would get her the other weekends we didn't. The Grandmother would spoil her to no end and talk shit about me all the time. She turned her into a rude, disrespectful kid.
Now, in our house, she is not the only child, there are rules and I demand respect and manners. I feel like I have to undo all the wrong they have done. My SD barely says anything to me, rolls her eyes, is rude also to my mother who watches all my kids afterschool for me, and she mopes around the house. I fight with my husband all the time because she is so disrespectful. I just can't stand her. I know that's horrible.
I can go on and on but I just really needed to get my feelings out and need people who can relate. Thanks for reading.