For background, my SD is 29 and is completely emeshed in MIL and BM. We have very little contact. MIL has chosen BM and SD over my husband for the past 25 years. DH was not married to BM; I am the first and only wife. MIL and SD have no relationship with my two sons with DH who are now teenagers. I have been incredibly hurt by MIL over the years so I had to distance myself. MIL is getting older and uses a walker to get around and can't drive. Shes only 73 but has MS and they suspect she has dementia. She is a narcissist; it's always about her and she is never wrong. Never apologizes. She refuses to go to the doctor about the memory loss. ANYWHO... she and FIL visited in March while I was out of town. They live 8 hours away in another state. DH and I have two homes and apparently she really bragged about our properties, and joked that she could be DH's cook and housekeeper. According to DH, MIL had a dream that she and my mother were living with us. JUST NO.

SO NOW, she says that she wants to "make up" with me. She has not reached out to me in years. My immediate thought is she knows we have nice things and wants her claws back into us. She also knows that BM/SD do not have anything (barely scraping by). And, I also think she is now wondering who is going to take care of her. Her husband is older, and while he is doing okay right now, he has had heart problems. If he dies, she is screwed. DH's only sibling died years ago (the golden child), so it's only him left (the scapegoat). I have NO INTEREST in reconnecting with her. I want peace in my life. I do not want their drama which is always with case with SD - they team up. My thought is that she has consistently chosen BM/SD, so that's where she should turn next. I know I sound harsh, but I do not owe her anything, and I certainly do not want to take care of a woman who has had nothing good to say about me for 25 years. My DH and I have worked hard all of our lives to have what we do.