SS asked to switch days between evil MIL and DH
Today, SS called DH and told him he was on holidays at evil MIL house since friday.
DH didn't know it (he cut ties with his family) and SS didn't mention it when he called DH on saturday.
SS told that MIL had a lot of work. Since she works as a cleaning lady for people, she takes SS with her, and he sits playing with his eletronic games all days long, from client to client.
He told that MIL couldn't do anything differently because she had to earn money.
Then, SS asked if it was eventually possible to switch some days between this week and the week he is supposed to come with us in august. He explained to DH that it will be more convenient for everyone because in august, MIL will have holidays and could play with him. Plus he insisted that if we switched time, he could attend SIL's baby son birthday that occurs during the time he is supposed to be with us.
DH stayed quiet and listened to SS speech. Then he told him it was impossible to switch anything since the activity center was already booked and paid and that our schedule wasn't flexible. He explained that we can't change what is planned for weeks now..
He added that he was really sorry to see that her grandmother accepted him on holidays while she obviously wasn't able to take care of him. He told him that, yet, what happens to his grandmother is non of DH business and that he should call her mother to see directly with her since she was the one who accepted to send him.
I was so furious about SS speech. That means this crazy lady accepted to keep SS while she obviously knew she wasn't available at all ! That means she goes from client to client with SS, telling everyone she could that DH is such a terrible father SHE has to take care of her grandson even at work ! That means she tried to make DH feel guilty even if he doesn't have the right to say anything on SS visitation to MIL.
Adding the fact that BM has healthy parents, always happy to watch for SS (he is the favourite even in BM's family), and the fact that MIL only started to ask for SS visitation when MY baby came into the picture.
Finaly, nice try for putting back SIL's son birthay on the table, but a NO is a NO.
Oh gosh, i hate her so much !
When will she stop to use SS to make us feel terrible ? Will i have to spend my entire life with this miserable woman trying to hurt us ?
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Breathe. She's talking to
Breathe. She's talking to people you will never know. Let it go, it isn't worth thinking about. OTOH, your husband is solid gold! He has the situation under control and is not backing down! Solid gold, I tell ya, solid gold!
Yes you are right winterglow.
Yes you are right winterglow... it isn't worth thinking about it. However, DH knows most of her clients since he lived in the same little town for years.
He doesn't talk to me about that, but i'm sure it must be difficult for him to accept.
I'm so pround of him and all the efforts he makes to care for and protect our family unit. He really wants our family (and couple) to works. Yes, i'm proud of him, and i also feel sorry for him too
Ma pauvre fille
Ah, Caroline,
There have been many terrible mothers-in-law described here on StepTalk but you win the ‘booby prize’ for the most offensive and mentally disturbed of them all. Your MIL has produced a dramatic movie, in her head, of ‘Granny Saviour’ and is teaching her grandson how to play his part. Having your stepson exposed to his grandmother’s insanity is like having him subjected to an ongoing, lethal and poisonous element. (Do they have Superman and kryptonite in France?)
Ridding the world of your MIL would be a blessing but, unfortunately, even such a righteous slaying would land you in jail. Sérieusement, your husband 'has your back', as we say here on ST. His strength and willingness to discipline his son will continue to support your marriage.
Hi grannyD and thanks for the
Hi grannyD and thanks for the reply !
Yes, my MIL is someone i would never ever be around anymore. The is the most toxic, unhealthy, dysfunctional person i have met in my entire life.
Not surprising she ended with a miserable life situation. She always capitalize on the "non essential" to avoid her duty (i think toward her own children).
When SIL was young, she didn't bother sending her to school. She was highly depressed and wanted her around to have company. Unfortunately for the kid, school director never called CPS because they lived in a small village where everyone know each other.
SIL becames like her, jealous, lazy, mean and toxic.
Hopefully for DH, he was sent to his grandparents when he was 5. They were abusive, but in the opposite direction : they made him work, work and work afterschool and during holidays. Farming, building, cleaning etc... so at least, DH learned how to work and is not lasy like SIL.
Stay strong, Hon!
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GPs have no visitation unless
GPs have no visitation unless they go to court and win visitation. If this is your DH's mother, WTF? And what is a kid doing making this call to negotiate schedule? Where are the adults?
If it is your DH's XMIL, WTF? She gets Skid time on her daughter's parenting time. She does not get DH's parenting time with his failed family progeny.
This is my DH's mother. In
This is my DH's mother.
In fact, BM sends SS during her time to MIL. DH has no power to control what BM is doing on her own time.
The schedule is settled since weeks between BM and DH. SS just tries to arrange himself with an ideal schedule that please him.
No talk between MIL and DH since he cut ties with his family after their outrageous behaviour.