I didn't know what category to put this in so I thought I'd go with general.
I am a mum to a 3 year old and pregnant. I met my husband 5 years ago, he then had a 2-year old son so he is now 7.
The set up at the moment (bare in mind this changes every few months) is 2-2-1-2. He is with his mum 2, then us 2, then back to his mum for 1 night and during the day on the saturday and back to us for 2 nights.
I have tried to accept this but his mum doesn't give him the love he needs and is to put it bluntly an awful mum.
This results in him being so needy when he's here and won't leave my husbands side at all.
Ive tried to accept this because I love him, and I just want him to be happy. I want us all to just live as a happy family. But god it's hard when he is like he is. He is like a totally different person the first night he is back here from his mum and then he is usually ok for one night but then it's back to his mums again.
Ive tried to talk to my husband to change the arrangements but he just says no and he thinks the routine is fine.
I feel awful but I just can't live like this and as it is now I hate the days he comes here. I dread it, I know I'm a bad person for saying it but I'm struggling, especially with being pregnant and having another child I don't want to be like this 4 nights a week because he is unstable.
There is literally nothing I can do but I just really needed to vent.