Step dad issues
So i am new to this as well, i have 2 step daughters aged 17 and 18 plus 3 children to my husband. All our kids are really good together. We have been together 12 years and ive had my step daughters in my care going on 9 years. Our relationship has always been really good and all children are treated equal.
Ive never had a great relationship with the girls mum or stepdad but have always made sure they keep contact as they 2 other siblings on their mums side. Their mum is mormon and i am not religious at all so i have been told im never going to guide her girls down the correct path.
Their mum commit suicide on my birthday 4 years ago and this is where the trouble started. Their stepdad got a new gf only weeks after the burial, got engaged, had a child and then married all within 1 year of losing their mum. He has a new family now but there are always conditions when it comes to my stepdaughters. He even got his new gf to pick out the design on their mothers headstone and this is only one stupid thing hes done.
If they are to visit him they are only allowed to be with him, his new wife and their children. His new wife has 3 kids, he has 2 (my stepdaughters siblings) and 2 kids to his new wife. Our girls hate that so they no longer see their siblings.
I cant trust him as he only does things that benefit himself and now my girls have accepted him on social media so he doesnt cut ties with them and wont be able to speak to their siblings. They see all sorts on their pages which do hurt them. Ive mentioned blocking him and writing to their siblings to keep contact.
Can anyone give advice on how to not lose shit with him cos i dont want to make things worse. My husband is really suportive of his girls and always has been. Its just hard to accept that he is doing things for a good reason but its hard not to be sceptical as hes hurt them so many times before.
Im not perfect but these girls are like my own and its hard to sit back and watch their stepdad take advantage of them.