O/T... soapbox moment
Sigh. I have a heavy heart, partly because I cannot believe how evil kids can be, and partly because this hits close to home.
My DD is on an allstar, competitive cheerleading team. There was another squad out of Canada that was their "nemesis." Allstar cheerleading is like a big dysfunctional family...think Abby Lee and the Dance Moms. Word went out first thing this morning that a young lady (fifteen!!) from this "nemesis" team killed herself.
The story is heartbreaking.
She drank bleach. Survived.
She overdosed on depression meds. Survived.
This time, she succeeded.
Why, you ask? Because her parents beat her? No. Bullying. While I'm as "anti-bullying" as the next guy, I want to stress that the bullying began as a result of a dumb choice she made in middle school. In 7th grade, she and her friends were "meeting people" via webcam. By 8th grade, she agreed to flash someone.
That picture will live on the internet forever.
While I'd like to take the bully and beat him senseless, as well as the others who joined in, I want to shake the PARENT and ask... where were you?? How was your daughter able to flash a webcam at 12 or 13 years old?
I know we cannot watch our children 100% of the time. I know they do things at a friend's house, or even at school, and we really can't know.
But, please, parents, and those stepparents who feel led, be vigilant. Know what they do online. Get passwords, check, monitor, and monitor some more. Don't send them to their rooms with laptops. Get software that records everything, so clearing the history doesn't work.
I know, I don't think stepparents should do this stuff. I think parents should parent. Steps are there as support to the parent. I, however, did not operate that way with the SD I raised. I was on her like white on rice. Period. But I also consider her one of my kids, and make no distinction between her and my bios.
My heart just breaks. This girl had divorced parents. She went from house to house. They tried... she went to counseling and was on meds. They had her involved in a very time consuming sport. They don't sound like bad parents.
Just, please, parents...the internet is a scary place and it means SO MUCH to these kids. Be aware. Know what's going on. Before it's too late.