I have snooped more than once at the texts between DH and BM. And the stuff I saw usually irritated me tremendously, leading to arguments with DH who pretty much defended his behavior and excused BM's behavior. BM gives orders rather than asks politely and it really irks me to see her order my husband around like if he's her puppet. DH has reached the point of not answering her, but she still sends the orders.

Anyway, this time when I snooped there was a message from her telling him when drop her CS check, but no reply sent by DH. The next evening DH was taking me out and we were heading in the direction of where she lives but DH never hinted at dropping the check on our way. It seems he had actually forgotten about it, so I confessed to reading the text and reminded him that he needs to drop the check - in a drama-free way. When we got there, we were having such a good conversation that we continued to chat while parked, we were not in any hurry, and DH hadn't called her to tell her we are outside. The next thing I know, DH spies her out of the corner of his eye, walking toward the car. He said, not hiding the disdain in his voice, "It seems like she smelled the check." He looked at me and we laughed and he gave me a smooch and said "BRB" and went to give it to her. Going to drop her check never felt so good.

Next thing I know, he's telling me he told her to keep the kids since he'll be working all weekend again. He's been working every weekend for sometime now and it's always me at home dealing with the kids - cooking, cleaning, entertaining etc. I had asked him a long time ago about not having them every single weekend so that we can get a little break and he had said he wants them to come even if all he does with them for the weekend is yell at them to brush their teeth before going to bed because he gets in so late. I had told him I understood why he wouldn't give up any time with them and never pursued the matter further. Seems he's been paying attention though!

One Skid-free weekend coming up!