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Do any of your Bios hang out with SKIDs at BMs?

steplife's picture

This is not something that has happened but is something I fear, more hypothetical. Have any bios tried to hang out over at BMs so they can hang out with their sibling more? I don't trust BM at ALL and I never want my kids over there. Has anyone ever had to 'forbid' their bios from going over there? How do you explain it to bios and the skid?

I would also hate if adult bios ever wanted to spend time over there (for events/holidays), but if it ever got to that point I suppose adults can make their own decisions.

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QueenBeau's picture

DS will never even meet BM. We live 3 hours away (& if we ever move it'll be furthur away for careers) & DH meets at a meeting point to get SD.

AtoZMom's picture

i go to BM house to pick up SD and she comes to our house to drop SD my BD doesn't know her but I know BM other daughter....and she calls me by name... I want 50/50 to happen so bad so my BM1 and SD5 can have more time together like SD5 has with her other sister....

AtoZMom's picture

i go to BM house to pick up SD and she comes to our house to drop SD my BD doesn't know her but I know BM other daughter....and she calls me by name... I want 50/50 to happen so bad so my BM1 and SD5 can have more time together like SD5 has with her other sister....

Unfreakingreal's picture

BS17 went to the beach once with SS22 and BM was with them. She has always been very nice to my son, but I am sure it's because SS cursed her out about him once. SS22 and SD14 refer to my BS17 as their brother. One day BM and her mom told the Skids, he is not related to you, he is not your brother. Skids told them both "YES HE IS OUR BROTHER and you better never speak badly about him."
I don't like BS around her because we despise each other, but he has told me that she's always been very nice to him. Bitch knows better, I would fuck her up so quick if SHE ever dared to treat my kid badly.

4ever's picture

I hope its okay if I answer since I don't have any kids of my own. But I know my stepdaughter's mom sends her to her boyfriend's ex all the time. The boyfriend has a daughter the same age. I've always been puzzled that she has no problem with the ex of her boyfriend taking care of her daughter but she's always had such a probelm with me. She buys stuff for her daughter tshirts and necklaces etc that say "I love my sister". She and her boyfriend dont live together and they've been together for five years so their kids have bonded which is great. I do wonder how moms deal with that when their kids want to go over to the other house.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

My kid would rather shave his head with a cheese grater than be within a mile of my DH's ex. After the way she's treated us and what she's done? Pfffft.

Maxwell09's picture

I can go both ways from different perspectives. As a new mom, I cringe at the thought of my baby being in the same room as BM...ever. But it will happen sooner than later as my luck will have it. On the flip side of my SS ever asked me if his other brother (BMs from BabyDaddy2) could come over and play when they are older then I wouldn't mind.

nunya1983's picture

Never ever ever, BM offered to babysit for me and dh when we first started dating. Uh, that's what my family is for... I've only have seen BM twice at this point, never have even spoken to her. On our first encounter of actually speaking she offered this. kinda weird, why would I trust someone I've only just meet?

EvilAngel's picture

I don't have any kids so thank goodness I don't have to worry about this BUT if I did....there is not a chance in hell I would let my kid go to Softhearts BMs house. Over my dead body!

However Thunderfoot can and SHOULD go at every opportunity she gets! Lol

onwednesdayswewearpink's picture

The people that have good relationships with normal bms who can get along and act like adults aren't on this site because they don't deal with psychos. If everyone is a normal adult it would be fine, but this group of people are not dealing with normal people.

steplife's picture

I'm glad to see that most everyone feels the same way! I'm never allowing it! We have an ours baby on the way and SD7 starting talking about how she could show her room, toys and play with the baby at BMs! Ummm NO NOT HAPPENING. Not that she knows any better at this age. SD lives here 50% of the time and will have plenty of time with her new sibling here. It got me thinking far in the future about when bio is older. I bet it won't be a problem due to their age gap. It's just hard to explain WHY bio's not allowed over there and I can't really say "Because your mom is a psycho bi*** that I don't want my kid around! That's why"

Glassslipper's picture

NO!
My kids are scared of BM, hence the reason that she is no longer allowed on our property!

AllySkoo's picture

Oh good christ no!

In our case, BM is actually not bat shit crazy. My kids have been around her a few times, in fact we've even been to her house (right after my DH's grandson was born). But there is NO WAY IN HELL I would have my kids in her home without supervision!

Our bios are MUCH younger than my skids though. Our oldest bio is 6, and my youngest skid is 18. So it hasn't really come up. Thank GOD.

nunya1983's picture

Oh my gosh! That is hilarious!

At first I thought BM was going to be this really nice person, dh said he had her under his thumb, that they didn't always go by the order that on several occasions he would all for extra days because he had fun things planned and BM agreed to it (this was before 50/50). I thought her offering to watch the kids for us was weird, and I wouldn't do it, but I thought MAYBE she was just trying to be nice.

Well things just got weirder from there. From there she would ask dh for extra time, dh would give it to her and request that she give him time in exchange... but it would never happen. Then he'd end up over looking it. When we got progressed or relationship I noticed more things. When we moved into the house, bm's moved into a rent house from her apartment. From she came into our home to pick up SD, and demanded we get a "real" Christmas tree, Demanded we put pictures up on the wall. She didn't like what we were going to send add home in (its what we picked her up in, washed and clean). She literally undressed her in my living room and put a dress on her... I was appalled. The restroom was another 10 feet away.... why not use that? She always wearing low cut tank tops and when she dropped SD off she bent down right next to dh (who was sitting on the couch next to her) and hugged her her tits almost fell off of her shirt! I was grossed out... from then on, she had no longer been welcome in my home. She can wait at the door. For SD, if she wants to strip her down naked where she stands she can do that on the front lawn.

nunya1983's picture

Oh my gosh! That is hilarious!

At first I thought BM was going to be this really nice person, dh said he had her under his thumb, that they didn't always go by the order that on several occasions he would all for extra days because he had fun things planned and BM agreed to it (this was before 50/50). I thought her offering to watch the kids for us was weird, and I wouldn't do it, but I thought MAYBE she was just trying to be nice.

Well things just got weirder from there. From there she would ask dh for extra time, dh would give it to her and request that she give him time in exchange... but it would never happen. Then he'd end up over looking it. When we got progressed or relationship I noticed more things. When we moved into the house, bm's moved into a rent house from her apartment. From she came into our home to pick up SD, and demanded we get a "real" Christmas tree, Demanded we put pictures up on the wall. She didn't like what we were going to send add home in (its what we picked her up in, washed and clean). She literally undressed her in my living room and put a dress on her... I was appalled. The restroom was another 10 feet away.... why not use that? She always wearing low cut tank tops and when she dropped SD off she bent down right next to dh (who was sitting on the couch next to her) and hugged her her tits almost fell off of her shirt! I was grossed out... from then on, she had no longer been welcome in my home. She can wait at the door. For SD, if she wants to strip her down naked where she stands she can do that on the front lawn.

flintstonegarden's picture

I would not let my Bio kids hang out/visit the Skids at their bio moms house purely on the facet that bio mom hates me and treats me like shit. I don't want her having any influence on my bio kids and that don't need to experience the hatred she has towards me. She does not know how to be civil or respectful.