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smurfy1smile's picture

For those who don't know BM let BF have baby for 6 days while she goes out of state with a friend.

Well, I picked up FSS 8 months on Wednesday. Gave BM my number since he will be with me more that with BF. WEd she did not call at all. Thursday she called 3 times and so far today not a word. When I talked to her last night, it sounded like she was at a bar. Wednesday night was awful. We don't know his schedule and the one BM gave us seems to be made up. Not even close to reality. Thursday morning baby woke up before 6am ready for the day so I stayed up with him. I figured I could stay up with him for an hour and a half and then wake BF to take care of him for the next hour and a half before he left for work so I could get a little more sleep. NOT! Baby went back to sleep about 8:30 am and then BF tells me he took a vacation day so he does not have to work but I do and I am the one who is sleep deprived. I had to take a 2 hour nap to make up for the sleep I missed. BF agreed to get up with baby this morning and when I called him on it, he states very rudely "we are never having more kids". Hello, its your kid, not my responsibility, and I took care of him all day and most of the evening Wed and you stayed late a work to fix our van. Thursday you took care of him for about 2 hours while I went to work and then I took care of him again. This morning BF woke me up so find out where the extra blankets were. He was going to sleep on the floor in the living room while baby played on the floor and my BD7 watched the baby. BF did not think I had to work today. Not sure how BF did not remember that since I told him more than once that I have stuff I have to turn in before noon today.

So why am I cranky? Cause I am sleep deprived and I have to work too. Not to mention taking baby and my BD7 to work with me since my daycare is closed this week. Plus, make the meals, wash the clothes (which means a trip to the laundry mat), clean the house, run the errands, and care for everything else.

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Bradybunchmom's picture

I have no advice for you, but beleive me when i say i know EXACTLY how you feel!!

I am often the one up at 6:30 with FH's 3 kids. Even though I am the one that has to do all the chores and watch all the kids 24/7. I am also the one that wakes up when they knock on the door between midnight and 5 AM needing something.

Sigh.

Rae's picture

JK....I think I'd tell BF I'm like grandma. I'll help as much as I can and give him lots of love, but when I'm tired he's yours and goes bsck to you. Your responsibility.

smurfy1smile's picture

Yeah, right! I tried and I got the whatever shoulder. I told BF last night that my BD7 and I were leaving at 9am this morning to go do laundry. yeah = 11 loads! BF had the nerve to tell me he was sleeping until 10am. NO WAY! I woke his butt up and he was not thrilled. I offered to stay until he take a shower and he declined. So off we went for 3 hours to do laundry and get some groceries.

Later on I had to take BS16 to the ER, he has strep. Baby was napping when I got back and BF stated he changed a poopy diaper (something he stated he would never do) and my BD7 helped. She wiped while he held the legs. Guess he can't do two things at once like most people. Baby woke up from his nap and Bf went in and got baby to go back to sleep and BF took a hour long nap too. I, on the other hand, got up at 4am to feed baby and then again at 7am for the day. GGGGGRRRRRRR

So BF refuses to get up in the night with his own child. I can't let him cry because he will wake up my BD7 in the next room.

HELP - I need sleep!

Bradybunchmom's picture

I started just pushing him out of bed when the kid cried....as for not wanting him to wake up BD, you'd be surprised what they will sleep through!!

Bradybunchmom's picture

I started just pushing him out of bed when the kid cried....as for not wanting him to wake up BD, you'd be surprised what they will sleep through!!

smurfy1smile's picture

MY BF and BM had mediation and BF wants 50/50. Fine with me but in front of his parents (as witnesses, his mom does not think he appreciates me enough) I told him he had to get up with baby in the night and in the morning and I was willing to trade off but if he does not do it I will take my kids and leave while baby is there and he will have no choice but to get up.

It worked when er had him for 4 days. So far so good!

Bradybunchmom's picture

Hopefully it continues to work out for you!