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BM is being waaayyyy too nice

smurfy1smile's picture

So we are in the midst of the custody eval and BM is being super nice and cooperative.

Ex: BF emailed BM to cancel a parenting time at his parents house because his mother was ill. BM emailed back asking BF to give is mother the best from her and FSS1.

Ex: BF sent BM info on cheaper health insurance for FSS1 and she actually picked one!

Ex: FSS1 came for a weekend and had a cough. When he went home, he did not. BM emailed asking what BF gave him or did that got rid of it. BF emailed back must be the country air and then BM replied darn I was hoping there was a trick.

Ex: BM gave BF an extra day this weekend for parenting time without him asking for it. That has never happened before.

Last Ex: BM told BF he has to have FSS1 for a week while BM is on a work trip. That's fine but she dictated the times and dates for pick up and drop off. BF requested a different drop off day since at the end of the week with FSS1, it is BF's weekend and he did not want to give up that time. BM did not respond for several days and then when asked about it said it was fine.

I could go on and on. I think she is just trying to show the CE how nice she is but I also think she is going to "shoot herself in the foot" so to speak and end up showing the CE that BM and BF can co-parent and should get joint custody.

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Shaman29's picture

I hear you on the BM being nice during Custody issues. My SD13's BM (Ignatz)signed off on an order granting my H full legal and physical custody (he only had full physical at the time). The only reason she did this, was so Ignatz could be unencumbered by my H (who Judge Judy likes) in order to get custody of daughter #2 from her BF (who Judge Judy doesn't like but feels he's a better parent than Ignatz). Their trial was set for three months later.

Within two weeks of her kicking my SD13 (her daughter) to the curb, Ignatz is suddenly supporting every one of H's decisions. Backing him up on punishments, being agreeable, actually taking his calls and communicating with him. We both wondered how long she'd hold out.....would she last until the trial, where H and I would be testifying on behalf of the BF? So her attorney can ask us, how are you getting along with Ignatz? Is she supportive of your household decisions concerning SD13?

She held out until the week of the trial, when it snowed and their trial was postponed. From that moment on she was back to her old self, undermining H's decisions, filling SD13's head with lies, and asking H for money all the time. Even though she owes him about $3K in arrearages and stopped paying CS.

The funny thing is during the original evaluations, she didn't even think to be nice to H and try being agreeable. She fought him every step of the way when he received emergency custody of SD13 (I really need a nickname for her!) and continued to be unpleasant during the entire custody battle.

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Valleymom's picture

FROM WHAT I HAVE GONE THROUGH. EVERYTIME BM IS NICE IT IS ALWAYS SOME KIND OF TRICK OR HER TRYING TO PUT ON A FRONT. SHE THINKS WE BUY IT HOWEVER THATS WHEN WE WATCH HER MORE CAREFULLY