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bm's bf now dealing with dh for issues with bball and ss???

smnikki's picture

yesterday, i get home dh calls bm, he tells her to please do him a favor (wtf?favor whatever) dont go to opening day, we obviously cant get along for the sake of ss, and its hard on ss when we are in the same place, and we have police reports to prove that she is not capable of behaving. bm, gives in and agrees not to go...why? because her bf told her that she was being selfish not dh, by insisting she go on our weekend....

dh says, let me talk to bf to discuss what happened at practice today...bm hands over the phone..bf tells dh that he agrees 100 percent on everything...he even asks dh if its ok that he taks ss to practice....how can such a nice guy be with such a cunt? no wonder him and bm have issues! anyways, dh tells bf to call him directly to discuss the breakfast tickets for opening day, and now dh is planning that if bm is acting a fool, he will call bf who is obviously more rational.....is it just me or is that weird?

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Thetis's picture

............
Ummm BUY THE WEDDING GIFT NOW!!!
lol Our Bm once had a super awesome boyfriend who organized a great sit down chat of ALL the parents, DH, BM, me, and him. It was a blast and we dealt with some touchy subjects.
The next month Bm had slept with his best friend and we had to keep Sd because bm's gas was getting cut off due to her BF moving out.
I would suggest trying to help make things as easy as you can for this guy. Having a voice of reason around can change an evil BM into a semi-smart Bm.
Best of luck!!!

stepmom2one's picture

no my SDs StepF is more rational about things than BM (imo).

But it is be to be expected, he has a objective point of view since he is not related to SS and doesn't know your DH well.

Stick's picture

SMNikki - It's so funny, isn't it? Doesn't it make you wonder what she is doing to get these guys initially?

BM used to have this GREAT boyfriend. He was so much like DH it was scary. He was in construction, he was dark hair, dark eyed, Italian guy. Had a motorcycle, was sweet, the whole bit. He was just like DH except for maybe 6" shorter.

And I was like WTF?? But then.... he left her.

Your BM's BF sounds like a great guy. Enjoy having him around while you can!!

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

smnikki's picture

they have been on the rocks, but seem to be good for the time being....problem is that when things are good in bm's life shes just as much as a bitch as when its bad...part of me hopes he does see the light and leave her sorry ass, she been such a bitch to dh lately trying to keep him from being involved with ss.

DISbelief's picture

Wow, he sounds like a good guy, with some BRAINS and get this BOUNDARIES!!! I would communicate with HIM only going forward. That can be her punishment for being so stupid for the past however many years! KUDOS to BF!!! And yay for you and DH, for finally finding the answer to dealing with her craziness!! Hope they work things out and stay together!

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ Wink

Stick's picture

SMNikki / Disbelief!! Yeah, it would be great if SMN, her DH and BF could all get along... Boy oh boy would that piss BM off to the high hills!!! Wooo Hooo.....

Really SMN... I hope he sticks around. He can only make things better for you and DH as time goes by, if he is as nice as he seems to be.

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

JustAnotherSM's picture

This could be a blessing in disguise... My BM refused to work with DH to co-parent their son. But when BM remarried when SS was around 10, we found it much easier to deal with StepDad than BM. That lasted for about 3 years. Then things took a turn for the worse. When SS turned 13 and StepDad realized that he did not have BM's support in providing discipline for SS, he started lying to DH about SS's behavior and humiliating SS in front of his friends. The last straw was when BM and StepDad took SS to an out of state boot camp for junenile deliquints (he was never in trouble with the law, just a typical disobedient teenager). They did this without DH's consent. BM and StepDad told SS that DH didn't want him and would rather leave him at this facility. Then they told DH that SS voluntarily went. And they told the school that DH was not involved in SS's life. This all happened on Thanksgiving weekend that was supposed to be DH's visitation.

Good luck dealing with BM's BF. Anything is better than dealing with her directly. But stay on alert.

smnikki's picture

i hope bf will stick around, but bm has been in tears many times because bf says he will never marry her. i think that bf feels guilt too because he knows that dh knows that bm was cheating with bf while dh was still married to her. the thing is, dh doesnt care because he never gave a crap about bm, hes just glad someone got he to file for divorce!