not taking skid to sports on your weekend...
we have 50/50
we are just finishing up tball and bm signed him up in the first place. but has managed to miss several things on her days to take ss, and has either simply missed or asked me to take him, which means i have to get off early commute 50 miles, pick up ss from day care and take him.
it would be one thing if ss really wanted to play but, ss is the most un-athletic kid ever. he claims that he hates tball because there is too much running.. um, hello its freaking tball, and when they are in the field he sits down and plays with the dirt. so for the last 3 months i have had to get up at the but crack of dawn, and take ss to tball on out saturday mornings, because dh works. bm signed him up by her house which is a 20 minute drive for us...ok no biggie because he will be going to school by her and dh and i are the ones that moved. but the thing is, bm was very un reliable in getting ss to and from....instead i was the rock that dh and bm knew would make sure ss got there...and for what? he hated it. i told him if he didnt want to play he had to call the coach and let him know that he was not coming and would be letting his team down....backfire, he was more than happy to call...anyways, it was a waste of time on MY saturday mornings, and his for that matter
now, bm is convinced that ss HAS to play soccer. dh told her that if she wants him to play to sign him up by our house, since we are the only reliable party for getting him there. bm flat out said no, because then when she CAN take him its too far. EXCUSE ME, so let me get this straight, the 20 min is too much when you can actually take him, but its ok for me to drive when its not my day, not my kid, and you are the one who is freaking signing him up for this crap he doesnt even want to do!! and you are controlling how i spend my saturday mornings driving your kid to soccer because you know that dh works?!
dh told her fine, no fight here, you sign him up but on your days, smnikki and i will not cover for you to take him...and if it is the slightest inconvenient for us to take him on our days, he wont go, and no you can not make arrangements to take him on our days if we arent taking him...and on saturdays, if smnikki doesnt feel like taking him, hes not going.( sometimes i work late on fridays...the lst thing i want is to get up at 7 am to get ss to and from something he doesnt even want to do) bm said fine
BUT, what are the repercussions if for some reason we end up in court? do we look bad for not taking him to crap he doesnt want to do that she signed him up for and dh did not agree with? what do you guys think? also, if this was something ss wanted to do, i would feel differently, i do anything i can for that little boy....i just feel like bm is controlling my day off!!!