i haven’t posted much lately, mainly because things in step hell have been pretty quiet. Still no contact from OSS or MSS. But I’m not too upset by that.
YSS still comes 50% of the week so DH is happy about that.
DH recently changed jobs and his new company had their Christmas party this past weekend. DH told YSS12 we would be going to the party (DH didn’t really have a choice) and maybe he could find a friend to spend the night with instead. YSS shows up Friday evening with a friend to stay at our house instead. DH was grumpy about it since there was no prior discussion about it but got over it soon enough. Saturday rolls around and YSS is upset that DH has to be gone that evening. He is actually in tears over it despite the fact he totally ignored DH all Friday evening. DH decided since YSS hadn’t made plans to stay with a friend, he would be fine at home alone for a few hours. Well after YSS started his crybaby act,
yss text BM who arranged a play date for YSS. Then BM jumps all over DH for not “telling her” we
were going to be out Saturday night.
So much is wrong with this scenario.
1. YSS is old enough to plan his own sleep overs and had a week to do so.
2. YSS is old enough to be left alone for a few hours
3. BM pawns YSS off for weekends at a time and has never contacted us with her plans so why would we give her our itinerary??
4. Just another example of BM having two sets of standards... one for her and different standards for DH.
And finally..BM and YSS act as if we can never plan anything if it is our time with YSS. She forgets we have him 50% of the time. And only went to the party because DH was told he had to attend. Yet BM plans many outings and vacations on her time with YSS and we never ask or care what she is doing.
Doublw standard much BM???