I Guess this is the End

My therapy appointment got cancelled which is too bad because I was ready to dump so much on her.

So me and BF decided to hash it out again tonight as a last ditch effort to save the relationship. BF said he will 100 percent NOT change his weekend schedule for someone who does the bare minimum and is willing to walk away the second things get tough, and there's no point in trying to work things out since I have it in my head already that I want to leave.

After I leave he is done with dating forever (lol). I hope he has a nice life with his mini wife.

I hate this feeling so much, but I guess it's what I need to do. I will be strong, I will get through this, and I am ready to start healing.

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You will be fine

I feel for you but you're on the right track. It's so tough to go thru a split but I think you're past reconciliation. You will be a happier, more peaceful person once this is over. Take care of you.

Thanks I want to believe we

Thanks I want to believe we could work it out but I guess it's not meant to be.

Sounds like his idea of

Sounds like his idea of saving the relationship Is for you to do all the compromising and he gives up nothing at all. I notice in one of your blogs he suggested you get therapy, and in another he said he didn't know why you wanted therapy, as you are "normal". Sounds like gaslighting to me.

If he cared he'd listen to what you need and make compromises. Nothing wrong with being sad but it seems this is over.

BF said he will 100 percent

BF said he will 100 percent NOT change his weekend schedule for someone who does the bare minimum and is willing to walk away the second things get tough, and there's no point in trying to work things out since I have it in my head already that I want to leave.

He does not want to save this relationship but instead of taking any responsibility, he is putting it all on you. You are doing the bare minimum, you are willing to walk away, you have it in your head that you want to leave. He offers absolutely no solutions or compromises. I agree with tog, you are being gaslighted.

I just read an article, literally right before I logged onto Steptalk, about the biggest time wasters that we regret when we're older; trying to make a bad relationship work was one of them.

I know it hurts but it really is time to move on.

Yep

Guess it's not meant to be. Time to start working on new relationships.

This is the guy who said you

This is the guy who said you had to earn time with him, isn't it? The one who never has time for you, ever? Just make sure he pays you what you've already invested in your home/mortage. Don't let him keep anything that belongs to you and I'm pretty sure he'll try. This guy is all take and no give. Your life will be so much happier without him and his mini-wife.

Yes

The very same.

Its not your job to go above and beyond for his kid

And have no structure at home or me time. It doesn't take long for you to resent your spouse or partner if you are always put last because you matter too.
putting you last everytime teaches kids its ok to do the same and you perpetuate this dysfunction every generation because you view that as normal.

its all too common here of men who prioritise their kids wants over spouse/partners basic needs. Thats not ok!!