Update since ss has vowed to destroy my marriage. He's not just destroying my marriage, but my life too
Hi everyone. Sorry I've been MIA for a couple weeks. Just been busy.
Since my last post, I've moved out with my daughters, and all of us have been going to thereapy to help us cope with sd16's death. Things are slowly starting to get better. I does hurt through when because my family and friend's still haven't spoken to me, but I have to remain strong for my daughters.
Me and dh have meet a couple of times to discuss things between us, and we've come to the conclusion that this marriage can't be saved. Deep down I wanted him to say "l love you, let's work on this" or "we can get past this", but I know ss14 would never let that happen-he ruined my marriage and turned my family and friends against me. We both agreed that it would be for the best to part ways. I told dh that I have to look out for my daughters and dh said that he has to look out for ss. Dh also said that things between him and ss are slowly getting better- thereapy I guess has been doing wonders. Dh also apologized for the way he treated me. He ackowledges that I wasn't the sole reason for sd's sucide, instead that everyone played a deciding factor. It was Sd's choice, but we BOTH played a role.
I did ask about ss14 despite everything he's done, I'm not angry at him. He was the one that found her on the bathroom floor, and him and sd were super close, so I can understand where all his anger and where is need for vengance came from. I asked dh if it would be okay for me to speak to ss- so we could both get closure, but dh said that ss's therepist said that i'm a trigger for him. Instead dh gave a letter that ss wrote.
It's been almost a week since then, and for some reason I don't know why i'm almost scarred to read it.