Telling BM tomorrow about us seeing a lawyer and going for full custody......I'm a little nervous.
FH is going to tell BM tomorrow about us seeing a lawyer and he's going to tell her that we're sure we will win full custody since BM's second DUI a couple weeks ago.
He's going to tell her that she can fight us on this and he will seek full custody with little to no visitation and make her pay child support OR she can agree to us having full custody and we will bring the skids to see her and bring them back home basically whenever she wants......and she will not have to pay any child support.
Recently, BM has been passing out at night and the skids have called us a couple times and we've had to have them wake BM up and FH has spoken to her regarding this.
BM denies drinking. She says she's just really tired. I think she's escalating since her recent arrest for DUI. She doesn't know we know about the DUI yet. FH was going to meet her, but our lawyer said it's a better idea to have a phone conversation and record it, so I'm going to buy a recorder tomorrow.
I hope things go well and I hope BM gets some much needed help. I am NOT wanting to replace her in the skids' lives. I want them to have a healthy, loving relationship with their BM.
Wish us luck tomorrow that things will go well. I feel like I'm heading into a battle that I'm confident we will win.........but is it really winning? I worry about the skids through all of this. They don't really think anything is wrong with their mommy and they love her very much and like to be with her, but last week SD10 did not go to school and BM told her to lie to us about it. FH was royally pissed because SD10 was NOT sick, she was just missing her mommy (we think).
Anyways, I will keep you all posted.
Thanks for all your support and advice.