Unbelievable BM and vacation horror
Hello steptalkers. After some time, I have gained some courage in posting on here. And also, I have an actual reason to vent now.
I have one ss, who is 13 years old. I also have two dd, who are 6 and 3 years old. dh and I have been married for 7 years. So it has been a long painful process.
Let me just say that dh's ex-wife is a grade A bitch. She has made our lives extremely difficult and has always tried to alienate ss from dh. And recently, she has become even more evil in her ways and is winning.
The main issue now has been about the vacation disaster that happened. Shit really hit the fan. For the first time since we got married, we saved up enough money for a vacation. Because of the bad press lately, we were able to get a great deal on 5 night cruise.
We do 50-50 custody with ss. This arrangement makes everyone miserable but bm and dh cannot get along to make it easier on ss. And because of this, we would have ss with us in the first week of June, when we got our cruise happens.
But in April, bm calls dh and asks if she can take ss with her on our week to Atlanta with her boyfriend (that is a whole other issue).
Let me just say that dh really wanted ss to come. But without ss there, we would save nearly $900. THe cruise package and the flight to the port add up.
And since ss would be having a great vacation anyway, dh said it was fine. As long as ss has a vacation too, dh is fine with it. He made it sound like he was doing bm a favor when we were benefitting too. She said thanks and that was that. So we cancelled one child ticket and saved a bundle of cash.
And dh did not bring up the cruise when ss was with us so he would change his mind. And I should say that ss has become very different since Christmas. He acted like he did notlike our present and that he would rather be with bm during the holidays.
We just chalked it up to bm's bitchy PAS tactics. Yill now ss has been not as nice with dh, which makes dh very sad. But again, this is another issue. He is a good kid overall with not too many issues.
So you guys can guess where I am going with this. The day of the cruise, we fly down to Miami to the cruise port. My daughters had never flown on a plane before and were thrilled. We boarded the ship and dh just begins saying he should have brought ss too when we get a call from our neighbor.
What happened next is real, I shit you not. The evil bm dropped off ss with a suitcase full of clothes for a cruise. That vile, disgusting bitch played us. Our neighbor called us very upset because she realized what happened. bm just dropped off ss at the entrance of our street and drove off to Atlanta.
She even turned her cell phone off. What kind of mother does this? So in full panic mode dh calls his brother to pick ss up while we think of something.
At this point I am upset. dh says he will leave and leave me and the children on the cruise. I told him I was not doing that. I have never been on a cruise and I don't feel comfortable going alone with my small children. Maybe I should have sucked it up but I really wanted my dh with me.
In the end, we stayed on the cruise. dh called his brother and asked if he could keep ss with him. After, he tried to talk to ss and try to explain to him the situation. ss was having none of it. He was crying bad, and screaming at my dh on the phone.
The ship left the port and dh had to turn off the phone to avoid charges. The whole time dh had no fun. And because of that, I could not have fun either. Only our daughters made the most of it. That bitch managed to ruin something we had scrimped and saved 3 years for.
When we were driving home from the airport after the cruise, I cried hard. I was so disappointed.
We went to pick up ss from my brother-in-law's. He was not happy to see us. He pushed dh away and tried to punch him when he tried to hug him and say sorry. And he didn't talk to anyone else. Well he did once. To tell us that he would remember this until he died. dh told the truth but ss was not listening.
The very next day bm comes to pick him and acts like she missed him so much. He immediately starts crying and tells her that we left him and tried to blame it on bm.
Somebody give this bitch an oscar. bm starts crying and saying how could you do that to ss. In front of everyone at the drop off parking lot. I about jumped out to slap her face. Then I noticed her boyfriend was recording us from his car. I yelled at dh to get in the car. dh was shaking with anger. He told me he was this close to hitting her.
ss refused to come for his stay with us last week. He won't answer the phone that dh pays for. Or even text back.
Now dh is in guilt overdrive and wants to make it up to ss somehow. By taking him on a trip somewhere.
So we are saving for this trip and praying that ss will accept it as an apology. We don't even have proof about bm's plan because it was all done over the phone. Now all communication with bm is done by email, which is pissing her off. Serves that bitch right. dh told me he hopes she dies. I hope so too.
There you have it steptalkers. Can I please nominate bm for the fking bitch of the century? This woman thought it was more important to get back at dh then have her son go on his first real vacation since his parents divorced.
Does anyone have any advice on how to get ss to see through all of this?