Advice about MySpace?
As some of you know, I have a Myspace account, and on there, I have posted photos of my family and some of our activities. My family includes my SO's daughter, from marriage number 1 and kids, as well as his mom and brother. They have all accepted me and treat me really, really well.
The problem is with his second marriage and two boys, aged 18 and 20. The ex has tried and tried to alienate these kids from their dad, and has been mostly successful, until recently. My SO has been able to make some little progress in communicating with the 18 year old.
Until...the beast went to my MySpace account and found those photos. She has absolutely gone off the deep end yet again. Says it hurts the boys, and they can't get over it, etc... Now, in my mind, this is my life, this is my family, and I should be able to post what I want. The boys are the only ones who haven't accepted me, and it's due to their mother mostly. The rest of the family is supportive, as is mine. In fact, if anyone should be hurt by the photos, it's probably my 22 year old son, whose mother up and moved 5000 miles last year...I'm sure he thinks about me doing things with SO, while he is left without me, but he loves me and is supportive. I'm really proud of how he is handling things.
My SO's boys on the other hand, are being told that they don't matter anymore. That their father doesn't care, because he does things with me and not with them. We've invited the boys over and over to come here and do things with their dad and sister when she was here visiting, and they don't even acknowledge the phone calls or emails. And now, once again, they have completely cut their father off. He has called them numerous times these past days and just gets their voice mail and no return call. They are punishing him for me posting those photos.
To me it's absolutely ridiculous! They were told about me over a year ago when I moved up here to be with their father; their parents had a horrible marriage for many years, and my SO had moved out of the home more than a year before I ever met him. In fact, he was dating someone else when I met him. He had already moved on. The ex twists things so bad...because the divorce isn't final. Still waiting on property settlements which she really messed up with some fraudulent transfers using an old power of attorney. Anyway, her claim is pretty much that I'm not family; I have no right to post those photos because she is still married to him; that it hurts the kids etc...
What do you guys think? Any ideas of how SO can reach the boys, and let them know these photos and our activities are in no way meant to hurt them...and in fact, they are welcome to participate, or plan something on their own with their dad if they would be willing.
I know this is long and rambling. It's so hard to combine the historic events with current events and make any kind of sense. But I know some of you know my history.
Thanks in advance for any support, advice or even critizism you can provide!
Oh and a PS...for those of you who are friends on my Myspace account, I wouldn't be surprised if you receive an email from her or her son (she uses his account) telling you how I ruined her and the boys. She refuses to accept responsibilty for her part in the failure of her marriage, and it's now all my fault...she thinks she could have gotten him back if it weren't for me living with him. Of course she didn't give a shit at all about getting back with my SO until I came into the picture. She was perfectly happy with him having his own place and just sending her money...for more than a year. No attempt to try and get him back or even find out where he had moved to! Anyway, she's threatened to do this in the past-contact all my family, friends and previous co-workers....I had a pretty public life and she found out all kinds of things about me on the internet...so I'm half expecting her to do it now. She is really a controlling nutcase.