where to start...

well my step daughter is turning 6 on sunday, she has brown hair blue eyes and is slightly chubby for her height, felt easier to begin somewhere simple...

when c was a baby she was very demanding always crying or uncontent in some way or another( this lead to her bm always giving her a bottle to comfort her instead of cuddles, she still asks for food when upset or bored) however she did sleep all night long. infact to this day she still has an afternoon nap for an hour or so shes a sleeper although we(the parents) would often be woken up during the night due to c screaming or crying in her sleep almost like she was experiencing night terrors this lasted for a few months but stopped around 21/2.

c didn't walk until after 18months old and didn't talk until after 2 before that spoke very little. from about 1 years onwards c would sit in a corner or on the floor and that was about all she did...( i feel this came about due to the playpen she was put into as a baby) c now has a major issues with tv she will sit for hours and watch anything even the weather channel just to be watching something and will become quiet agressive or upset at being made to turn it off....when we use to drop c off at the end of our weekend access she would throw huge tantrums fighting to get away from her mother crying, a very emotional experience this has gone on ever since but recently maybe the last 2 months or so she hasn't wanted to come with us but then doesn't want to go back less crying and tantrums but will be distressed and sooki, during the 2nd lot of court battles c started to throw tantrums about coming with us for a short time but we would ask her what was wrong and some of her replys were that her grandmother wouldn't say goodbye to her because she was going with her daddy,another was that her bm had said she could have ice cream but because daddy had come she wasn't allowed anymore ,in court the bm used this as a way to say that we where making up c distress at leaving us as she did the same for the bm at handovers we don't know why. c is a very sooki little person who will cling to anyone even complete strangers she is always craving cuddles or physical attention. her school has addressed that c regularly infringes upon the other childrens personal space even after being asked to stop she also tries to kiss others on the lips. we have actually put in place that c is to ask for cuddles before climbing on others as sometimes people might not want this and we are trying to instill a respect for others personal space we haven't succeeded as yet. when c was little she seemed to swing from one extreme to another for example one minute she would be sitting watching t.v the next she would be screaming at you to get her food the next she would be upset wanting attention and then back to happy again with in minutes it was like someone was flicking a switch between emotions and at times it felt like personalities. c was a bad on for huge tantrums where she would become hesterivcal they were very scary to watch as she would get so out of control huge rage issues, we often asks the bm if she had experienced this and she either didn't answer the question just simple ignored it or would say " that doesn't happen at my house" we heard this reply often when we brought up issues with her, we also found we could not take c shopping as she would try and take things or would wonder off to speak with complete strangers heaven forbid if what we were buying wasn't for her as she would slow you down on purpose one thime i took her shopping for dinner ingrediants but first needed to pop into a clothing store to price something and c went and wiped her face on the clothes she liked when i asked her stop stop she told me to buy them for her and she would i simply walked straight out of the store. c always seemed to gravitate towards adults and never children unless they where older this has been a problem with her younger siblings, with younger children c always tries to dominate them and get them to do things even if she knows it is wrong or the child has said they don't want to, we find if c knows shes going to get in trouble doing something she will force another child to do it for her.we also have the added bonus that for as long as i can remember c is a celebration ruiner, for example if we attend a party or celebration for someone other then her she will sulk not join in games or activities and more often then not will tell the person we where there to celebrate with something nasty about them or would comment that the party or dinner etc sucked or was bad in someway.however at her own party she will only join in if she wins the games and gets rewards she also only ever wants to invite the people she knows she gets stuff from. we only get her to go to her greatgrandmothers because she gets biscuits and freddo frogs. when c was little her out bursts were reserved only for those in our household or who ever was in charge ie babysitters grandparents etc but it has now progressed to c yelling at complete strangers or her fellow class mates teachers. the thing that has become a huge issue with c for a while now is that she will not be loudly rude or disruptive now she has taken to pulling people aside mainly those her age and younger and saying very hurtful negitive things to them away from people who will tell her off and example of this is only a few weeks ago my hubby caught c telling her younger brother that if he didn't play with her the way she said she wouldn't be his friend anymore and that he would never have friends and everyone would hate him and he would be alone forever, as her younger brother is only 4 this scared him quiet abit. c has also started saying that she remembers when her daddy still loved her bm and they all lived together and it was beautiful that was before i lived with daddy and that i had ruined it , the issue i have with this is that c parents split when she was 7 months old so how she remembers i don't know. c has often come to our house quiet upset and saying that her bm was talking on the phone to a friend saying how much she hated c and couldn't cope, saying that bm has pinched her and told her she hates c or punched her and said this but when questioned on this at a later time c will say she never said anything and that we lied. my heart breaks as i have trouble believing that a small child will make up some of the things she says but since the physics report my hubby thinks we shouldn't believe anything she says. it has got to the point i don't want her to open her mouth as she's either telling you how much she loves you and wants you to pay her attention or shes about to bad mouth you. c want for attention is so demanding that she wil push other children out of her way to be seen and often she will try to scare children younger then her so they wont come near others so she can get all the attention, we have found that c will want to join in play wrestling or simlar floor games( i have young boys so most games are physical and boysterous) only to get angry that people are having fun and so she'll ruin it in some way or another.it seems c started in this world with an agenda that she wants everyone to follow and because we don't know what that agenda is she gets mad at you and that is when people around her get hurt both mentally/emotionally and physically or things get broken,lost or damaged or she has to ruin ebents in some way.i find that now she is older i thought she might be able to understand more and be able to make some judgements for herself you know kind of sort the bull sh*t her bm has said or done from what she knows of my household but it seems she's hell bent on being the bully as well and making other hurt so she can feel better about herself. i wanted for so long to believe that c was made this way by her mother but as she has gotten older and has started her own path of distruction i am losing hope.