Something has to give
DH was informed by his ex that DHS was called to her home because SS10 told his therapist that BM's BF hits him. I was not surprised by this since I suspected moms BF of causing SS broken arm last year but apparenty I was the only one that thought that. We were also told that the police are there on a weekly basis now becasue BM and BF fight constantly
It has only been 2 weeks since the ourt date and SS never mentioned any problems when asked by the judge and lawyers, now all of a sudden he is abused. My problem with the whole thing is this, DH likes to say "my poor son" It's all I hear on a daily basis when he get reports about things going on at moms house however he has yet to ask BM what the name of SS therapist is so he can call and hear the diagnosis for himself instead of her version nor has he asked what type of ADHD meds SS was recently put on. I also told him that he should contact SS school as well as DHS to inquire as to what is going on there as well, he says he will but doesn't.
The court granted him50/50 custody yet he insist on not doing anything with it and it makes me angry, it makes him look like he just really doesnt care. Maybe he doesn't and is just acting like he does I don't know, But i think if he says My Poor Son one more time to me I am going to sream!
I know I need to step back and just let him parent the way he wants which is the complete opposite of the way I parented my own grown kids.
He is in complete denial about SS having ADHD My son had ADHD and SS is just like he was at 10 years old. Apparently he was was put on medication but since he hasn't bother to ask BM what kind we don't know.
DH either needs to step up and start being a concerned parent or stop whinning about the way BM is raising his son and their living conditions. I'm going to stop asking about him.