Thank you. It may be odd to be the first words you read from a stranger who's blog just started; but I wanted to express my gratitude right away. For awhile I've needed an ear to bend about step parenting. At time of writing I am in my early 30s and a step mom of two teens. Perhaps it is the fact that they are teens I am screaming out, although I recall a few instances in their younger years I would have liked some guidance. I'm here now though.
You reading this makes me already feel heard and I truly appreciate your feedback. I try to talk to my husband about my qualms; as it should be since he is the one I'm married to and who's feelings/opinions I should consider most. Sometimes though I wonder if my feelings are crazy and perhaps I should shrug things off. Or sometimes I fear that I am putting him in the center and his kids and I are pulling him in two different directions.He gets this demeanor when this happens and it's like I can literally feel him being stretched thin. So because I love him and don't want to give him a heart attack, I'm looking to vent with other steps. From time to time I remind him to put himself in my shoes. In reality he doesn't know what it is like to be/have a step. His parents and most of his family are still married. As for my own family they only know what it is like to be a step child.
so thank you for being a fellow step parent and a reader to those who call out. It's about time someone heard us.
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No problem, just keep venting. LOL
You are preaching to the choir here, don't worry about it. We all have been thru the various stepparenting issues. It helps a lot to vent. Read around on this site. Many of the problems are common and you can see various responses. Good luck!
They say being a parent is
They say being a parent is the hardest job you will ever have. I have to disagree. Surviving stepparenthood is by far one of the most challenging things I have experienced in my life so far.
So many times I have just wanted to run away. I know life would be so much easier. I could walk away and never think about SKs again.
I never really talk much about why I stay and thier are times I struggle. I do love my relationship with SO and when it's just us we have an amazing relationship.
It's like always feeling torn in two different directions.
I know what you mean about struggling to fully talk to your DH. My SO knows my feelings but I have to be sensitive of his as well. So I can't really let it rip the way I do here.
This is why this forum is so useful.
Keep venting here, we're listening