Thank you. It may be odd to be the first words you read from a stranger who's blog just started; but I wanted to express my gratitude right away. For awhile I've needed an ear to bend about step parenting. At time of writing I am in my early 30s and a step mom of two teens. Perhaps it is the fact that they are teens I am screaming out, although I recall a few instances in their younger years I would have liked some guidance. I'm here now though.
You reading this makes me already feel heard and I truly appreciate your feedback. I try to talk to my husband about my qualms; as it should be since he is the one I'm married to and who's feelings/opinions I should consider most. Sometimes though I wonder if my feelings are crazy and perhaps I should shrug things off. Or sometimes I fear that I am putting him in the center and his kids and I are pulling him in two different directions.He gets this demeanor when this happens and it's like I can literally feel him being stretched thin. So because I love him and don't want to give him a heart attack, I'm looking to vent with other steps. From time to time I remind him to put himself in my shoes. In reality he doesn't know what it is like to be/have a step. His parents and most of his family are still married. As for my own family they only know what it is like to be a step child.
so thank you for being a fellow step parent and a reader to those who call out. It's about time someone heard us.