Down the rabbit hole.
There are so many stories of malicious mothers on this site and I thought maybe if I shared whats going on in my life it might ease the stress of it all. I met my fiancee about a year ago, we live together and he's wonderful. He has been amazing with my kids, which he always calls his. He built a basketball court for my son on the side of the house, repaired the concrete and painted the court, put up a very nice brand new basket, and does drills and games with him whenever he wants. He cares about them, is very nurturing and protective and I can't imagine our lives without him. My ex lives across the country and hasn't been involved in their lives much for awhile,But not because I am discouraging it or excluding him. I feel completely nuetral about him and it works well for all concerned. Unlike my fiance's ex. The woman cannot and will not move on. Its actually pretty sad, and I vacillate between feeling pity for her and wishing she would just step in front of a bus. My fiance and her have a 7 year old daughter, and it is heartbreaking to see the effects of parental alienation the mother has had on her. What a nightmare. A little backstory, when SD was 2 BM faked an illness as an excuse to pack up and go back to their home country of Canada for the free healthcare. It was a lie and after she had been there with SD for 6 months could then get primary custody in a foreign country. Fiance finally figured it out and the next week on his birthday was served divorce papers. What followed was a shitstorm of false drug use allegations, abuse stories, anything she could come up with to smear him in court. All lies. Lies about his family. Oh, and while she still was living with him and accusing him of cheating on her, demanding to check his phone every day she would send texts and emails to herself with his number and email saying that he rescinded all rights to his daughter that he officially gives her full custody of his daughter, then erase them from his phone before giving it back to him. When that showed up in court he lost it. He figured out a way to get back the texts and emails and realized what had happened and in court they werent considered viable because they weren't signed, but still, wtf. It has taken five, yes five, years for the divorce to be written up and she still wont sign it. Her goal was 3,000 a month CS and Alimony, full custody, no visitation...ended up with $500 CS, shared custody and visitation (which she doesnt comply with). The hoops this man has had to jump through just to see his daughter for a few days is mind boggling and sickening. She says she wont sign because shes taking him back to court for more money. yippee. I can feel the bile rise in my throat anytime his ex is mentioned. I hate feeling fearful of what this woman can do to our lives FROM ANOTHER COUNTRY. The last time SD came to visit (which fiance payss 100% for, including BM's flight and hotel) BM demands that she call every night, and one night BM didnt answer we put SD to bed and then 20 minutes later she was calling the police because she didnt get to talk to her daughter. SD is told not to kiss her dad, not to spend time alone with him, someone must be with them at all times, and to top it off the day before their flight BM sent a fucking grocery list, of literal grocery food items, that she wanted for her week long stay at a 100% paid for hotel (which every time has to be The Paris in Vegas, she wont stay anywhere else and the flight has to be the most expensive airline as well). She constantly sends fiance texts about what a horrible person and father he is, classic tyrant behavior, avoidance of responsibility for her actions. She continues to blame him and will for the forseeable future and all the while just manipulates the daughter to view him that way too. Its sick. I want to be there for my fiance, to make it better somehow, but this it seems will be more of an endurance challenge.