Do they really know me? Probably not.
So DH and I have been Married for 5 years this month...or is it 6? I'll have to look at the marriage license to know for sure because one day melts into the next; one year into another.
DH has MS and Autism. So, while he is high functioning on the spectrum and his MS is manageable; I am a caregiver much of the time. DH is a stay at home dad...disabled because of the MS. But he does try very hard to create something, anything that contributes. He has written several fantasy novels and has created a board game. But gaining the interest to turn it profitable has been a challenge.
SS14 has Autism and BiPolar Disorder. He is also high functioning on the spectrum. A majority of our time and energy is spent trying to make sure that he grows to be a functioning, contributing member of society.
I am 50 years old. I am going back to college.
I have a BA in Journalism that is fairly useless. When I was younger, I was going to right the wrongs and write the wrongs and it didn't matter that I would never make more than 30 thousand a year; while working 60 plus hours a week. Over time, the newspaper business has slowly died. It has become more and more corporate with fewer and fewer jobs. So I have been in Broadcasting.
I have been making my living in a field that is VERY unforgiving of aging and any changes in how one looks or sounds. I am 50.
Anyway.....I am back in college now getting a degree in Accounting; a field where I hope my age will not be a HUGE negative like it is in broadcasting.
Today; my I gave my DH his anniversary present; a video game he wanted Dead Rising 4. He was very happy.
SS14 asked him what I was going to get as an anniversary present. I told him nothing.
Me: He's Stumped.
SS14: Surely not.
Me: Y'all have no idea what to get me because you don't really know me anymore. Not as a Person. Not as Pecan. Only as Mom or the Lady who takes care of everything.
SS14: That's not true. There are presents under the tree for you.
Me: Yep. And I bought them.
SS14: We know you, Pecan!
Me: Okay, here is a challenge for you. What would I like to receive that is not related to my Etsy shop (I crochet geek related items and sell them for extra cash--for the last couple of years they have given me supplies); not related to YOUR interests; or not a candle or underwear?
I love them both. But through the course of the day to day taking care of life and managing the house; DH has forgotten to connect with me as a person and SS14 only wants to talk to me about his video games.
I'm not really upset about it. It's just a fact of life and of marriage.