Question is do I want to. I live with a 17 yo SS who is emotionally 10 years old. And he lives here full time, every day of the year. SS' infantile behavior is not improving one bit and it's SO's fault.

SO refuses buy SS a car so SS can learn to drive (he's not coordinated enough to drive SO's manual shift truck).

SO has made no efforts to teach SS to drive. He's not pushed SS to get a part time job. SS is socially inept and has lots of issues relating to people. A job is exactly what he needs.

And per my recent post, I don't think I can live another year and a half watching SO enable SS' baby behavior. It drives me up the wall.

We just came back from my sisters wedding. I'm the only sister left who's not married. And of course I'm now thinking I want to get married too. I've been with SO for two years. I'm tired of putting my life on hold because he won't push his son to develop emotionally and learn life skills.

I'm not gonna live here while SS17 asks his dad how to reheat food in the microwave when we all know he can figure it out himself.

My original plan was to wait until SS moved out and then we could talk about marriage. But with no hope of SS learning the skills to live on his own, that plan has changed.

I want to be married. I'm in my 40's. I've waited long enough. I don't think I should have to put my life on hold for a boy who is never going to cut the apron strings.

I'm attractive. I've lost weight. I feel good about myself. And I'm living with a teenager full time who has 2 hour conversations about what if Superman were to retire, and watches nothing but cartoons when he's not playing Xbox.

I wonder if I should cut my losses before my stock goes down any further.

I'm also considering forcing SO's hand. My requirements are he buy a car for SS that SS can wreck and it won't be a great loss. He teach SS to drive . He must go with SS and make him turn in applications and go back with SS for a follow through interview Untill SS gets a part time job. And SS moves out after graduation, even of SO has to pay for his apartment.

This will most likely force SO's hand and he will likely say no. But it's better I know this now. I have a right to be happy iny home, to get married, to live with people who are respectful towards me and aren't jealous of me.

I think I can do better maybe....question is do I want to end things and deal with another big change in my life. Another move.

Sorry about typos I'm on my phone.