And things were going so well.
Breaking my promise to myself to take a break from ST so I don't get caught up in giving too much space in my brain to step life.
SS16 got his bike stolen because he couldn't be bothered to lock it because "I was in a rush." He was late to school of course. Lazy ass.
So now that football season started, SO must yet again chauffeur SS16 back and forth to the games on weekends for band.
SO tried to tell me SS will have to learn his lesson because he's not getting another bike. I said, SS is not learning any lesson! He's getting free chauffeur service, it's you, SO that's being punished for this.
I suggested getting him another bike and taking it out of his allowance of $20 per week. SO says, nope, not interested.
I thought to myself, I'm interested! How is SS going to learn independence if Da Da drives him everywhere. He's too immature and unmotivated to learn to drive himself, and he's too lazy to get a job to save for a car.
I swear if I get woken up by SO's stupid Hawaii 5-0 ring tone he has set for when SS' texts him to come pick him up late at night I'm going to flush SO's phone in the toilet. He's gonna have to change that ring tone.
Oh, yeah, and SS is pissing me off recently with his dismissive treatment of me unless he wants to demand to know where his dad went without checking with him. SS is an a-hole. So now I'm going to have to break the news to SO that SS' picture on SO's bedside table has to go! Not biting my tongue any more.
Oooohmmmm.......
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Wow. Bad decision on SO's
Wow. Bad decision on SO's part. Bad bad bad.
Yep. I gave him my opinion,
Yep. I gave him my opinion, made myself clear. That SS should be made to save up for another bike, make him walk to football games as an incentive. He's done it before its a long walk but doable.
Now I just have to give SO space to do whatever he's going to do. We shall see. Whats the benefit in being with someone who has an older child if he's going to treat him like he's 5.
Actually, I see your SO's
Actually, I see your SO's point. He won't buy him another bike b/c that would be rewarding him for being irresponsible with the last one. It's good parenting if you really think about it (and we don't see a whole lot of that here, lol.) I also see your point, who wants to be the cabbie here? lol. Perhaps another idea would be better... Public transportation? He is 16 so he is old enough to catch the bus. Have him download the bus schedule and map his routes to wherever he needs to go. That would be awesome parenting, lol. Just a thought.
Already, you are right. I
Already, you are right. I can't blame SO for not wanting to buy SS another bike.
I was just so disappointed. I was feeling hopeful that infantile SS was finally working towards becoming more independent, and this was a huge setback. Now we're back to where we were a year ago with SO carting SS around because SS is too stubborn to ask a friend for a ride home.
But, yeah, SO shouldn't get him another bike. It'll just get stolen through SS' carelessness again. Now if SS had to pay for a bike with his own money....and it was his only form if transportation.... Oh well, not my kid.
I totally understand your
I totally understand your frustration. SO should be able to see that by becoming SK's 'driver' is not the best alternative either. Both ways are simply enabling his irresponsibilty. Maybe you could do some nudging on both of them. I know, not your kid. Still, look up the bus schedule yourself to see if that's an option. If it is, perhaps showing it to SO would be beneficial? Maybe showing SK craiglist listings for used bikes would help him to see that getting another bike is a possibility?
I swear these men target our good nature, use it all up , and turn us in to the wicked witch when we shut down! Grrrrrrrrrrrr!!!! }:)