stay strong (i know weak comment from me but still)
keep your chin up let it all out here cos that could drive you insane

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )

This would go right up my a** - he owes her nothing more then Child Support!!

I think too few are extended, especially considering how much good can come from them. It's a gamble, but it's his gamble.
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I think it's a nice idea.

I bought BM a gift card for the movies so her and the girls because she kept the girls for two Fridays in a row for DH.

I didn't feel comfortable "paying" her to watch her own children so I opted for the gift card instead so they could enjoy a movie while she was "babysitting". The gift card was only enough for just the tickets.

She never took the girls. I heard she took her boyfriend instead probably buying popcorn and snacks with what was left over after the ticket purchase. My intentions were for her to spend some of the extra parenting time doing something fun with the girls not to giver her a bonus so she could hang out with her worthless boyfriend. Whatever. Her choice.

Anyways, olive branches can be great. But don't be too surprised if it doesn't work out EXACTLY as the way you (or DH) planned it.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

with my FH buying a ticket for his ex and his kids so they could go to a movie together, she gets enough CS AND that money could be spent on us and them when they are over.
but everyone's tolerance is different, I do think that Cru is right on when she says it might show the ex that he still cares about her and 'his' family
the path to heaven is paved with good intentions.

"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

I agree with the plan. If BF has it in his heart to want to do something nice just for the sake of being nice, let him. In this respect DH should not allow BM's pissiness dictate who he is (obviously a kind generous man).

As gifts go...you have no control over what someone does with something you give them (even for a specific purpose) as a gift and once it's given, don't look back. The purpose of a gift is to give or do something nice. Not expect something or some action in return. It's not BF's fault if she's a turd!

The key with staying strong and getting the message across to little miss lonely heart is consistancy. Our BM said we wouldn't last 5 years and here we are. I still think she secretly thinks he will come back but she doesn't show up to the door in a towel anymore. LOL

I suggested that we invite BM to all kid related events at our home. ie: birthdays and such. But, DH REALLY didn't care for that idea thinking that it would just come around to bite us. Honestly I think after a few invitations and a few attendances some of the hostility would have left all of us by now.