why did I ever think it mattered if they liked me?
I have 3 adult children from a previous marriage. My husband has 2 adult children from a previous marriage. He and I have been together for 8 years.
My children obviously love him as much as I do. They are respectful, attentive and playful towards him and it is sincere. He is a wonderful man and they have genuine affection for him. He seems to reciprocate and says they are like his own kids.
His own are another story...Well into our 6th year together his son, then 28, finally deigned to speak to me. He said " I used to be ambivalent about you, but you're OK ". He hasn't said much more to me since then, but at least he keeps in touch with his father. My husband's daughter, now 29, has neither spoken to nor seen either of us in more than 7 years. Four times in the past she has texted her father that she wants to renew a relationship but when he has called her she doesn't answer her phone, nor return his calls. Each time she was engaged and planning a wedding which fell through. Recently she called and actually spoke with her father; to tell him she was getting married in less than 3 months and wanted us at the wedding. We have never met the man she is marrying nor his family, I have never met her biological mother or that side of her family, and through mutual aquiantances I know that she has always and continues to say things about me that are falicious, hurtful, rude and unwarranted.
Her wedding is schduled for the weekend of my birthday - it is a significant landmark age I am reaching and my children have planned a weekend long together for the immediate family to celebrate with me.
When my husband got off the phone after this surprise call and told me she is getting maried and named the date I said " oh, my birthday party is that weekend"....I wasn't able to get another word out. He screamed ( which is VERY uncharacteristic for him) that I could go to my damned party and he would go to his daughter's wedding then carried on so, that I left and went to stay with my daughter for a few days. When I returned and tried to have a rational conversation about his outburst he went right back to the same level of aggitation he had exhibited the first time so I came upstairs and found this site.
Now I am asking you who have lived through this Adult Stepchildren scenario or something like it What Is He Thinking ? ( I already have my own ideas about why SHE called)