I had to come right to work after which gives me a bit of freedom to post without DH or kids over my shoulder.

The social worker (? I think that's what she is called) seemed very nice and concerned about SD. She had already talked to BM and SD separately. Here's all that we need to do to get SD back under control.....
DH needs to leave me and the children and get his own place and be available 100% of the time for SD. Yes, this is actually what BM wants. She said he was the perfect father until he married me.
Thank goodness the social worker could understand how a married man with 4 dependants cannot be available 100% of the time for anyone and that it sounds like BM is angry he went off and got married.
She read statements from SD and apparently she gets along well and loves the other children but despises me (gee, that I wouldn't have guessed :jawdrop: ).
She had the statement peppered with various lies and half-truths. I am so sick of the lies, things I've apparently done to her or said or things the other kids have done.
I gave the social worker a stack of emails from BM, all full of hatefullness and lies and paint a perfect picture of what she's like.
I also mentioned our counsellors name (she knew him) and said that he has met BM and told DH and I that we are fighting a losing battle and there is nothing we can do to better the situation. Rather frusterating, not sure where to go from here. I have thought of asking DH to leave but we get along great normally and I'd hate to do that to my kids. Sugestions anyone? I love how I'm the one that reported her and then she can up with a bunch of lies about me and how we treat SD. GRRRRRR :sick: